Walking into Shame ((tags: shame))

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By Brene Brown

 

"Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change"

 

…But in surviving this last year, I was reminded of a cardinal rule -- not a research rule, but a moral imperative from my upbringing -- you've got to dance with the one who brung ya. And I did not learn about vulnerability and courage and creativity and innovation from studying vulnerability. I learned about these things from studying shame. And so I want to walk you in to shame. Jungian analysts call shame the swampland of the soul. And we're going to walk in. And the purpose is not to walk in and construct a home and live there. It is to put on some galoshes and walk through and find our way around. Here's why.

 

We heard the most compelling call ever to have a conversation in this country, and I think globally, around race, right? Yes? We heard that. Yes? Cannot have that conversation without shame, because you cannot talk about race without talking about privilege. And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame…

 

…Shame drives two big tapes -- "never good enough" and, if you can talk it out of that one, "who do you think you are?" The thing to understand about shame is it's not guilt. Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is "I am bad." Guilt is "I did something bad." How many of you, if you did something that was hurtful to me, would be willing to say, "I'm sorry. I made a mistake?" How many of you would be willing to say that? Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake.

 

There's a huge difference between shame and guilt. And here's what you need to know. Shame is highly, highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide, eating disorders. And here's what you even need to know more. Guilt, inversely correlated with those things. The ability to hold something we've done or failed to do up against who we want to be is incredibly adaptive. It's uncomfortable, but it's adaptive.

 

… You show me a woman who can actually sit with a man in real vulnerability and fear, I'll show you a woman who's done incredible work. You show me a man who can sit with a woman who's just had it, she can't do it all anymore, and his first response is not, "I unloaded the dishwasher," but he really listens -- because that's all we need -- I'll show you a guy who's done a lot of work.

 

Shame is an epidemic in our culture. And to get out from underneath it, to find our way back to each other, we have to understand how it affects us and how it affects the way we're parenting, the way we're working, the way we're looking at each other

 

…If we're going to find our way back to each other, we have to understand and know empathy, because empathy's the antidote to shame. If you put shame in a Petri dish, it needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence and judgment. If you put the same amount of shame in a Petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive. The two most powerful words when we're in struggle: me too.

 

And so I'll leave you with this thought. If we're going to find our way back to each other, vulnerability is going to be that path. And I know it's seductive to stand outside the arena, because I think I did it my whole life, and think to myself, I'm going to go in there and kick some ass when I'm bulletproof and when I'm perfect. And that is seductive. But the truth is that never happens. And even if you got as perfect as you could and as bulletproof as you could possibly muster when you got in there, that's not what we want to see. We want you to go in. We want to be with you and across from you. And we just want, for ourselves and the people we care about and the people we work with, to dare greatly.

 

Understanding Toxic Shame ((tags: shame))

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Understanding Toxic Shame

In my last post we learned how shame, fear and violence are connected. We have been discussing the fact that a violent act stems from the violent individual’s significant feelings of shame. But is shame always something that causes a strong negative reaction?

Healthy vs. toxic shame

Healthy shame lets us know our limitations.

There is shame that is normal and healthy and shame that is toxic. In Healing the Shame That Binds You, John Bradshaw presents some points that I think are key to helping us understand shame.

Bradshaw suggests that healthy shame is a normal human emotion that lets us know we are limited, which is part of our humanity. It signals us about our limits and motivates us to meet our basic needs. By knowing our limits and finding ways to use our energy more effectively, healthy shame can give us a form of personal power.

Healthy shame does not allow us to believe we “know it all” but spurs us to make significant life changes. In knowing that we have made mistakes and are not perfect or always right, we can continue to strive to grow and discover.

Toxic shame’s flawed self

Bradshaw describes toxic shame as more than an emotion that signals human limits; rather, it creates beliefs that one’s true self is defective and flawed, creating a false sense that one is defective as a human being. If this false premise of defectiveness is believed, then he or she tends to create a false self that is not defective or flawed. Once someone creates a false-self, then he or she ceases to be an authentic human being. Another psychologist author, the late Alice Miller calls this “soul-murder.”

Chronic shame can cause someone to create a persona or false self.

Chronic toxic shame and the false self

People who have toxic shame believe that they are a failure. Self-contempt, isolation and a strong sense that they are untrustworthy are also feelings which accompany those who believe themselves failures. Sadly, when shame becomes a core belief (or a core identity), the individual will most probably shut down from human relationships.

Toxic shame has the potential to become chronic. If it does becomes chronic, Bradshaw believes that many of the psychological syndromes such as neuroses, character disorders, political violence and criminality can result.

Adding guilt to shame: healthy vs. unhealthy guilt

Guilt can also be healthy or toxic.

The issue of guilt versus shame plays into this discussion. Guilt can also be healthy or toxic.  Healthy guilt helps us form our conscience. We would not want a world with no conscience where people would be shameless and do anything they wish.

Healthy guilt reveals to us when we have violated our own values. It usually persuades us to change or make amends. It also provides a fear of punishment, which is a deterrent (a healthy outcome).

Unfortunately, if someone is shame-based, he or she feels punishment is warranted. The person can also believe that there is no possibility for repair.

Sense of hopelessness

People who are shamed-based live in hopelessness and are locked into a set of very unhealthy beliefs.

In summary, people who are shamed-based, who live in the hopelessness that they cannot fix their lives and will always be failing, are locked into a set of very unhealthy beliefs. Their sense of being trapped in failure and shame can lead to desperate acts including perpetrating violence.

Although it may relieve guilt, this feeling of entrapment in failure is why punishment that doesn’t lead to a healthy outcome intensifies shame. It is, therefore, essential to realize that we must be so careful not to place so much shame our children that they become convinced that they can never change or recover.

Our systems also need to be evaluated to see what kinds of messages we are transmit to those who are in our care. It is much too easy to judge, shame or blame, but the consequences are devastating.

It would be interesting to see what would happen in our world to the statistics on violence if we could remove shame from our families, systems and communities. I believe it would alleviate the magnitude of violence and violent crimes we see in our world.

Gerry Vassar, President and CEO, Lakeside Educational Network

Some information taken from Preventing Violence through Anger Management, 2006, Diane Wagenhals.

Respect: One Antidote for Shame ((tags:shame))

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We have been discussing the powerful force of toxic shame and how it destructively impacts the lives of children and adults. We have learned through research that shame and violence are tightly linked. So, we can deduce as a society (and as families) that as we reduce shame, we will most probably realize a reduction in violence.

What are some ways we can change the impact of shame?

Showing respect can de-fuse aggression.

One way to reduce the impact of shame is to be intentional about respecting yourself and others. If you are respecting people in your life, you likely will not be shaming them.

Respect usually takes four major forms, all of which are important: respect for self, respect for others, respect for all forms of life and the environment that sustains them, and respect for principles and truths. It may be defined as follows:

  • Respect means that a person has and shows a high positive regard for the worth of someone or something.

  • It is a way to honor and appreciate someone or something.

  • It also encompasses the attitudes and behaviors attributed when someone has a high opinion of someone or something: when someone values or acknowledges the worth and the rights of that individual or the worth of the object or property.

  • And finally, respect involves a decision to obey rules or directives that are put into place by authorities.

If we are being clear and focused on this issue, then I believe big improvements in our relationships and in our families will ensue.

Putting the focus on respect

What are some key ways to show respect?  Here are 15 suggestions:

  • You face the person.

  • You make and keep eye contact, unless this is considered to be disrespectful, as in some cultures or situations.

  • You use facial expression that are friendly and match what the person is saying.

  • You use body language that is open and accepting, smiling, nodding, etc.

  • You stand and or sit straight up.

  • You stand or sit at least 18 inches away from the other person; not any closer.

  • You give time to the other person to express his/her thoughts, feelings, needs values, concerns, beliefs or perspectives.

  • You use I-messages to share your opinion.

  • If someone disagrees with something, he or she can state that disagreement as a personal opinion, not as a fact.

  • You maintain your cool.

  • You speak with a firm, but calm voice.

  • You speak slowly and clearly.

  • You do not interrupt.

  • You are polite by being thankful, appreciative and sensitive.

  • You address someone with proper respect.  It could be, “yes, sir,” “Yes ma’am,” or “Yes, Your Honor.”

These are some ways you can be intentional to show respect.

The more we respect others, the more likely we will be respected.

When people are respectful of each other, they are less likely to behave with hostile, angry or aggressive interchanges that can lead to physical, emotional or relational harm.

The more we respect others in these ways, the more likely we will be respected. Wouldn’t respectful relationships create a great positive cycle within our families and society?

Gerry Vassar, President and CEO, Lakeside Educational Network

Some information taken from Preventing Violence through Anger Management, 2006, Diane Wagenhals.

The Masculinity Conspiracy - Archetypes ((tags:archetypes,criticism))

This is a summary I made for understanding more about Archetypes.

 

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06: Archetypes

The Conspiracy

So far we have looked at how several key themes—history, sexuality, relationships, and fatherhood—are mobilized by the conspiracy in society at large to promote a specific and prescriptive vision of masculinity that bears little witness to the diversity of men’s experiences. In this chapter we will look at how archetypes have been used as a way of understanding masculinity within the context of men’s movement literature that began gaining momentum in the early 1990s, and which has continuing influence today.

An archetype is a template that can be used to describe various universal themes and motifs, most commonly employed in myths. The psychologist Carl Jung used archetypes as a way of understanding particular models of human behavior and characteristics, the basis of which can be discovered deep in the human psyche, and is shared across people and cultures. To be sure, this is a very simplistic description of Jung’s understanding of archetypes, which was both complex and dependent on the stages of his own conceptual development. However, the way the men’s movement uses Jungian archetypes is equally simplistic, so it will suffice for our discussion, at least as we allow the conspiracy to talk in its own voice in the first section, The Conspiracy. We’ll tentatively scratch the surface of what else resides behind the concept of archetypes in the following sections, the analytical The Problem, and the more visionary The Solution.

The two books examined in this chapter are themselves archetypal of men’s movement literature, or a particular type of men’s movement called the mythopoetic men’s movement, which made use of myth, metaphor and story to understand models for masculinity. The mythopoetic men’s movement is most notably connected with the poet Robert Bly, and we will look at his 1990 book Iron John: A Book About Men. Bly’s book started a movement that garnered significant media attention at the time with stories about men’s groups taking place in the woods, where partially-clothed and bearded men would get in touch with their “inner,” “mature,” or “deep” masculinity. Shortly after this came our second book, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette. These two books catalyzed a large volume of literature that, while less read today within the context of the men’s movement, is still influential in the way various forms of personal development coaches, popular psychologists and spiritual gurus describe masculinity.

Bly’s book, Iron John, recreates a Grimm Brothers tale about a young boy who meets a wild hairy man—Iron John—who becomes the boy’s mentor and leads him through various stages of development via initiation into maturity. Bly’s main point is that contemporary men have become “soft” and disconnected from their inner wildness. Men have been disempowered in culture, television, literature, and are too often presented as bumbling fools: “When we walk into a contemporary house,” writes Bly, “it is often the mother who comes forward confidently. The father is somewhere else in the back, being inarticulate.”

A significant part of the problem identified by Bly is the nature of modern work, which since the Industrial Revolution has removed men ever further from their families, in particular their sons. This has prevented them from bonding with their sons and initiating them into manhood: as such, we have a whole society that has never entered full initiated maturity. The result is what Bly describes as the “sibling society,” in which immature men are suspicious of older men and authority, while at the same time being naïve about men their own age and women in general. The absence of sufficient father-son relationships is also described by Bly as the “father wound,” which we touched upon briefly in the previous chapter about fatherhood.

Bly claims that contemporary men can counter this problem by rediscovering the Wild Man (Iron John) within themselves. While the Wild Man is a psychological archetype, Bly also extends the metaphor to include wildness in nature, where he believes masculinity most naturally resides: “to receive initiation truly means to expand sideways into the glory of oaks, mountains, glaciers, horses, lions, grasses, waterfalls, deer. We need wilderness and extravagance. Whatever shuts a human being away from the waterfall and the tiger will kill him,” writes Bly, citing Francis of Assisi and Henry David Thoreau as two “nature mystics” who appropriately communed with the land and exuded wildness. Bly believes there is a uniqueness to masculinity which, while also accessible to women, is rendered most eloquently in men: “in the man’s heart there is a low string that makes his whole chest tremble when the qualities of the masculine are spoken of in the right way.”

It is important to remember that while the mythopoetic men’s movement was often perceived as the “spiritual men’s movement,” it is chiefly psychological: Bly claims archetypes dwell “at the bottom of [the] psyche,” among “other interior beings,” which runs counter to a commonly-held assumption that archetypes are spiritual in character. We will explore the nature of masculine spirituality in the next chapter, but it’s useful to note that Bly is curiously hostile to the spiritual in Iron John, basing much of his critique on re-asserting the masculine (in the stereotypical understand of the word). Bly prefers Old Testament Christianity, paganism and indigenous spirituality to contemporary or orthodox religious observance, which he perceives as being insufficiently masculine and wild.

The psychological and even biological basis for archetypes is more explicitly articulated by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette in King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. They describe archetypes as being “hard wired” in the reptilian brain. While Bly focuses on the Wild Man archetype, Moore and Gillette focus on the King and Warrior (all four archetypes referred to in their book title are explored, but it is notable that the Magician and Lover—which resonate far less with stereotypical and combative models of masculinity—have gained far less attention in the men’s movement).

Moore and Gillette claim the King archetype “is primal in all men” and “comes first in importance.” We are told the King is based on creative principles, inasmuch as he literally creates the world (his kingdom) around him. To the individuals who reject the King’s world he says, “you are chaos, demonic,” and more than this, “you are noncreation, nonworld.” The King, then, is a reality-defining entity which Moore and Gillette intend to be of a generative or benign nature: his leadership principles are similar to the model of servant leadership discussed in the previous Fatherhood chapter (the father, if you like, is a domestic King archetype). There is a definite majesty behind the King archetype—and thus in masculinity—in every sense of the word: Moore and Gillette describe its return in our barren contemporary culture as an, “intuition of holiness … both dreadful and wonderful by virtue of its power … It drops us to our knees with the force of its holiness.” Should readers require music to help evoke this kingly drama, Moore and Gillette direct them towards, “soundtracks from ‘sword and sandals’ movies like Spartacus or Ben Hur.

Just as the King is inherent in the male psyche (indeed, of primary importance within it), so too the Warrior archetype, which Moore and Gillette identify in numerous domains, both natural and fictitious. Moore and Gillette appeal to the great apes to explain what they perceive to be the natural basis for the Warrior archetype. They cite Jane Goodall’s study of chimpanzees, who initially were thought to be peaceful but ended up being Warrior-like (brutal), the suggestion being if the chimpanzees cannot remain peaceful, how can men? (You may remember how the appeal to the animal kingdom was discussed back in the History chapter.) They go on to argue, “What accounts for the popularity of Rambo, or Arnold Schwarzenegger, of war movies like Apocalypse Now, Platoon, Full Metal Jacket and many, many more? We can deplore the violence in these movies, as well as on our television screens, but, obviously, the Warrior still remains very much alive in us.” The prevalence of violence, both in the human and animal kingdom, is seen as evidence for the natural and rightful role of the Warrior as a defining characteristic of masculinity.

Further positively-framed examples of the Warrior include the shifting tactics of fencers and guerrilla soldiers, and the split-second decision making of “a good Marine.” Just as readers seeking to evoke the King archetype are directed towards “swords and sandals” cinematic references, for the Warrior Moore and Gillette suggest inspiration can be found with the exemplar of Yul Brynner in The Magnificent Seven who, “says little, moves with the physical control of a predator, attacks only the enemy and has absolute mastery over the technology of his trade.” Moore and Gillette even co-opt religiosity into their search for the universal Warrior, citing Jesus and Buddha (as they both had to endure temptation) and Islam which, “as a whole is built on Warrior energy” (one wonders if this would have been so enthusiastically employed in a post-9/11 world).

There is a stylistic and structural element to Moore and Gillette’s presentation of archetypes that also appeals to a commonly accepted (in other words, conspiratorial) model of masculinity. Their introduction states, “our purpose in writing this book … has been to offer men a simplified and readable outline of an ‘operator’s manual for the male psyche.’ Reading this book should help you understand your strengths and weaknesses as a man and provide you with a map to the territories of masculine selfhood which you still need to explore.” The Mars-like masculine characteristics suggested by John Gray in the Relationships chapter are evident here: the “operator’s manual,” and the “map to the territories.” Moore and Gillette divide their archetypal map up into four quadrants, which offers a model suggesting some kind of systematic or scientific rigor, and which shares a commonality with Ken Wilber’s map of the human psyche, as referred to in the History chapter.

The four quadrants do not just map out different types of archetypes, but balance elements both within and between archetypes. Moore and Gillette aim to be cautious, reminding us that archetypes need to be offset by other archetypes to produce full and rich personalities. For example, the Warrior might be offset with the lover to produce depth and nobility to what might otherwise be a rather mono-dimensional “real” person (Winston Churchill, Yukio Mishima and General Patton are referred to in regard to this particular combination: make of that what you will). The balancing element is also addressed with the notion of the “shadow,” which is when an individual over-identifies with an archetype, or has mobilized archetypal energies in negative ways due to insufficiently addressed neuroses or character flaws.

In sum, there are very clear messages to be had about masculinity and archetypes from Bly, Moore and Gillette:

  • Archetypes are inescapable character templates that are rooted either in the depths of the human psyche or the reptilian brain.

  • Masculinity is defined by a particular set of archetypes: namely the Wild Man, King and Warrior (echoing those repeated themes of masculinity being about aggression, assertiveness, leadership and the public domain).

  • Modern society is out of touch with these archetypal energies and must re-connect with them via a process of initiation to solve our social ills.

  • Masculine archetypes must be combined or balanced with other archetypes in order not to manifest the “shadow” or negative character traits.

 

The Problem

I’ve written about the problem with archetypes in a detailed (read academic) fashion in my earlier book, Numen, Old Men: Contemporary Masculine Spiritualities and the Problem of Patriarchy. A good deal from this section (and in others) is drawn from that book: I’m telling you this so if you happen to have read it you won’t feel deceived about repeated content, and also so that you don’t have to go and read it, or know where to look for greater depth on the subject if you feel inclined.

The mythopoetic men’s movement made a great deal about its use of “Jungian” archetypes, suggesting it was drawing upon a deep and sophisticated psychological and analytical heritage. The reality is somewhat different, which has resulted in the movement more accurately being described as “neo-Jungian,” which in more everyday language might be translated as “Jung lite.” There isn’t the space here to outline how the mythopoetic men’s movement misread Jung, but suffice to say Jungian scholar David Tacey has charged it with “conservative and simplistic appropriation of Jungian theory.” The archetypes the movement aspires to are, in short, simply reflections of the way masculinity is modeled within the conspiracy or, as masculinities researcher and counselor Philip Culbertson has described them, such archetypes are “calcifications of a patriarchal world view.” What I’m more interested in are the types of masculinity such archetypes promote and some of the more general problems with identifying with archetypes (in a neo-Jungian, if not genuinely Jungian sense).

Take, for example, the Wild Man. Let us put aside the problematic issue about initiation around which the Iron John story revolves, as I have shown how this is a conformist strategy on behalf of the conspiracy in the previous Fatherhood chapter. It is a simple fact that Bly claims wildness is the essence of masculinity: it is a clear and prescriptive statement. If you have no inclinations to wildness, in all its earthiness and hairiness, Bly believes you are missing the essence of masculinity and are presumably one of the “soft males” he identifies on numerous occasions in Iron John.

Bly suggests, with his allusion to “the glory of oaks, mountains, glaciers, horses, lions, grasses, waterfalls, deer,” that there is something inherently beautiful about wildness, as if the psychic wildness of masculinity is the same thing as the majestic wildness of nature. But this is not so: the psychic wildness that Bly refers to is subject to all the pathologies and neuroses instilled by the conspiracy, whereas nature is not (although nature is massively impacted by the dominating mindset of the conspiracy, but that’s another story).

Folklorist Jack Zipes does a great job of teasing out some of the inherent messages of Iron John and the Grimm Brothers tale, Iron Hans, on which it is based. In its original form, the Wild Man folklore archetype was a demonic figure, not a mentor. Further still, the tale was used not to encourage some “natural” masculine wildness, but to initiate young aristocrats into the role of warrior or king. Zipes concludes that, “both Iron Hans and Iron John are warrior tales, and both celebrate violence and killing as the means to establish male identity.” Is that the kind of masculinity we really want? Certainly not, but it’s the kind of masculinity the conspiracy promotes, as we have seen specifically in the History chapter.

And of course, one does not need to look to the pre-history of mythopoetic men’s movement literature to see this pre-occupation with violence, as Moore and Gillette’s book indicates. As I mentioned before, Moore and Gillette deal equally with the four archetypes of King, Warrior, Magician and Lover. However, when the book was first written, far more attention was given to the conspiratorially-flavored King and Warrior archetypes than to the Magician and Lover. Two decades later, mobilization of the Warrior archetype by far outstrips all other archetypes and can be found in a range of men’s movement contexts such as The ManKind Project, counseling and group work, and a range of alternative spiritualities, whether of an earthy nature (such as Paganism) or corporate nature (such as Integral Spirituality).

Moore and Gillette’s presentation of the Warrior archetype would be funny were it not intended so seriously, and it is no surprise that such literature was lampooned at the time by satirists such as Alfred Gingold and his book Fire in the John: The Manly Man in the Age of Sissification. The appeal to swords and sandals movie soundtracks and Yul Brynner genuinely make it appear as if they are playing for laughs, but it is a tragedy rather than a comedy, because so many men continue to take them seriously by appealing to the “Warrior within.”

I find it deeply disturbing that questions such as, “What accounts for the popularity of Rambo, or Arnold Schwarzenegger, of war movies like Apocalypse Now, Platoon, Full Metal Jacket and many, many more?” can be answered with the assumption that the Warrior archetype is natural in all of us. At the very least, equal consideration must be given to the answer that we have been systemically conditioned into violence by the conspiracy. Indeed, it seems like something of a conspiratorial cover-up that such a question is not given adequate consideration by writers with otherwise serious and clever backgrounds.

This is the way the conspiracy works: the blindingly obvious is routinely overlooked and replaced with what, on examination, are quite absurd suggestions that are commonly accepted as true. As I reiterate repeatedly throughout this text, when something appears to be natural, we are often witnessing the conspiracy conditioning our understanding of how masculinity is defined. In the current context, there is plenty of awareness that the Warrior is a problematic model to follow, as demonstrated by the need to routinely qualify it by such terms as “peaceful warrior” or “noble warrior.” But warriors are what warriors do, and that is facilitating violence and death. But such is the effective conditioning of the conspiracy that even those who identify a problem would rather soften or sanitize the Warrior than reject it out of hand, which is by far the most sensible thing to do.

What this qualification also suggests is that the task at hand for an individual is to identify with the “spirit” or “essence” of an archetype rather than fully embodying it, which can lead to problems, or what is referred to as the “shadow” of the archetype. However, there are no effective strategies provided for how to achieve this, and knowing when enough is enough: it relies on individuals knowing what is “wrong” and what sensibly resides in the “shadow.” However, given that everyone has different values, and even smart writers such as Moore and Gillette do not ask necessary and blindingly obvious questions about why things are the way they are, such “knowing” is rife with danger.

Let’s have a look in a bit of detail at how such a process is insufficiently addressed. The following example from Moore and Gillette discusses the Shadow King, which should be the ideal opportunity to nail down the problematic nature of both Kingship and navigating the shadow:

In the story of King David and Bathsheba, Bathsheba was the wife of another man, Uriah the Hittite. One day David was walking on the roof of his palace when he spotted Bathsheba bathing. He was so aroused by this sight that he sent for her and forced her to have sex with him. In theory, remember, all the women of the realm were the king’s. But they belonged to the archetype of the king, not to the mortal king. David unconsciously identified himself with the King energy and not only took Bathsheba but also had her husband, Uriah, killed. Fortunately for the kingdom, David had a conscience in the form of Nathan the prophet, who came to him and indicted him. David, much to his credit, accepted the truth of the indictment and repented.

Moore and Gillette’s point is that if a man identifies with the shadow aspect of the King archetype he will become tyrannical. They state that, “as is the case with all archetypes, the King displays an active-passive bipolar shadow structure,” yet their example of such shows David identifying not with the shadow but the archetype itself: “David unconsciously identified himself with the King energy.” The shadow is the net effect of the identification, not part of “an active-passive bipolar shadow structure.” This represents one of the least practical elements in the whole mythopoetic call to archetypes: identify with the archetype to find your wholeness, but do not identify too much. One must wonder that if King David found this process tricky, with all his experience navigating kingly energy, what hope is there for the average man? Let us give Moore and Gillette the benefit of the doubt on this confusion.

Moore and Gillette say, “In theory, remember, all the women of the realm were the king’s.” “But,” say Moore and Gillette, anticipating the feminist outcry, “they belonged to the archetype of the king, not to the mortal king.” One must therefore assume that belonging to an archetypal dominating structure is considered less oppressive than a real one. “David unconsciously identified himself with the King energy and not only took Bathsheba but also had her husband, Uriah, killed.” In short, by being a rapist and a murderer David bears witness to King energy, not just in its shadow form, but its full archetypal form. “Fortunately for the kingdom, David had a conscience in the form of Nathan the prophet, who came to him and indicted him.” In other words, David did not have a personal conscience, rather an external conscience which was enforced upon him in the same way that fairness must be enforced upon all conspiratorial models of power, for it does not eventuate of its own accord. Even then, David is removed from the equation, as the indictment is not fortunate for David personally (though one assumes he had some desire to redeem himself before God) but “the kingdom.” “David, much to his credit, accepted the truth of the indictment and repented.” So, King David is an archetypal-delusional murdering rapist who requires external pressure to awaken his conscience for the sake of the supposed greater good, but “much to his credit” he repents. It is as if Moore and Gillette have unconsciously identified themselves with David and are in need of their own prophet Nathan to point out the deeply disturbing nature of the King. At best the King is a benevolent dictator, at worst a despot.

So the conspiracy mobilizes archetypes in a very specific way: it suggests there is a narrow range of characteristics that are “natural” to masculinity: it allows very little diversity, suggesting anything which falls outside these characteristics is insufficiently masculine or, in Bly’s words, “soft.” Note another strategy here: the lip service to a broader range or archetypes and balance. Certainly, both Bly and Moore and Gillette refer to a broader range of archetypes than those that are overtly dominating and combative. Certainly, both Bly and Moore and Gillette refer to the danger of identifying with the shadow aspect of archetypes and the pathologies that can result. This allows them to have their cake and eat it. When people like me come along and point out the problematic nature of pathological Kings and Warriors, they point to the other archetypes as evidence that the criticism is selective, yet their massive weighting towards Kings and Warriors is itself selective, and it is deceptive to suggest that alternative archetypes are given equal consideration within the movement.

At the end of the day, these writers know that if they want to sell books and get bums on seats at workshops they have to appeal to a populist understanding of masculinity, which until the conspiracy is overturned at a systemic level can only ever mirror the conspiracy. I suspect that a lot of writers who appear to support the conspiracy do so not because they firmly believe in what they are writing, but because they know there is a market for what they are writing, and because they enjoy the privileged position of being a thought leader within that market. Speaking out against the conspiracy is, after all, a lonely place to be, and certainly does not pay the rent (we’ll explore the financial motivation behind the conspiracy in more depth in the concluding chapter).

So to recap, there are various problems with the way the mythopoetic men’s movement uses archetypes as models for masculinity:

  • The archetypes used have none of the subtlety or nuance intended by Jung, rather they reflect commonly held conspiratorial perceptions of masculinity.

  • Those perceptions of masculinity are largely pathological: the violence of being a Wild Man or Warrior, or the domination of being a King.

  • There is no adequate system in place to explain how men should identify with the archetype, but not so much that they inhabit its “shadow” aspect.

  • References to a broader range or archetypes and the “shadow” give the impression of balance, but this is at best lip service or at worse deception.

The Solution

There are three key strategies for mitigating the problems caused by the men’s movement and their use of archetypes. The first strategy, and one that I find most compelling, is to simply reject them out of hand. I can appreciate that Jung may have had subtler intentions about archetypes, and that today it is also possible to imagine different types of archetypes. However, my feeling is the common understanding of archetypes is ingrained in such a problematic way in popular culture that those more useful levels of meaning will forever be eclipsed, and it is best to redeploy that meaning in an altogether different type of language. The problem, though, is that because archetypes—as a metaphor for understanding reality, rather than a psychic reality in themselves—are so deeply embedded in society, it seems almost impossible for people to shake free of them. As such, we are left with strategies two and three: creating different types of archetypes and thinking differently about the nature of archetypes.

As I mentioned above, while greatest attention was given to Moore and Gillette’s King and Warrior archetypes, they also wrote about the Magician and Lover. In a similar way, while Bly wrote chiefly of the Wild Man, he also referred to other archetypes (albeit not in any productive manner) such as the Mythologist or Cook and Grief Man. Back at the height of the mythopoetic years, some effort was made to redress this balance. For example, Glenn Mazis wrote a book called, The Trickster, Magician and Grieving Man, but it sank largely without trace because its rejection of the hero motif ran counter to the kind of conspiratorial masculine fantasies found elsewhere in the movement.

In a similar way, Aaron Kipnis wrote approvingly of the Green Man as an archetype, a largely pagan understanding of masculinity that combined it with the more nurturing and organic characteristics of what is commonly perceived of as the Earth Mother. Kipnis’ Green Man—described as “a creative, fecund, nurturing, protective, and compassionate male, existing in harmony with the earth and the feminine, yet also erotic, free, wild, playful, energetic, and fierce”—is useful in trying to offer different archetypes, but also shows how difficult it is to erase conspiratorial themes. For example, these counter-conspiratorial characteristics are muted when Kipnis goes on to remind readers that Green Man energy also envelopes carving a phallic staff, copulating on the 30-foot-long penis of the Cerne Giant and having the power of massive erect trees. The reader is stirred in the knowledge that he can be simultaneously nurturing and hard, in every way: with the Green Man, just as with the rest of the conspiracy, the cock is always central.

But there remains, nonetheless, some benefit to this line of thought. The Trickster archetype is, I believe, particularly useful. It has the potential to offer a framework for masculine characteristics that may or may not be stereotypical. Importantly, too, its values range from playful through to malicious. The Trickster always resides in shades of gray—rather than being black or white—which, as an analogy, is more representative of the truth when looking for models for masculinities. For those who find the Trickster too akin to a medieval joker or Castaneda-like, I would suggest a more contemporary version of the Hacker. The Hacker archetype again may or may not be stereotypically masculine: he may be imagined as an epic battler with his acts of online transgression, but equally can be a scrawny loser living with his parents. A spectrum of values is also apparent: white hat hackers who are there to transparently highlight flaws in data security; black hat hackers who are overtly villainous and out for personal gain; and that vast section in the middle, the gray hat hacker who, like most real people, comprises a bit of everything. I certainly see myself as a gray hat type.

One other useful archetype that may be worth considering is drawn from gay literature, the Androgyne. Toby Johnson writes of the Androgyne, “a potent blending of male strength and competence and of female sensitivity and feeling makes for a more interesting human being with a more complex and fascinating personality.”  It’s interesting to note that while the Androgyne is discussed here within the context of gayness, there is nothing about it that requires same-sex attraction: any straight man should be able to embody the Androgyne without compromising even his commonly-understood sexuality (let a lone a more fluid version of the same, as suggested in the Sexuality chapter).

There is, however, a word of caution in regard to the Androgyne, which is useful to remember whenever the idea of “balance” is tabled. Johnson’s reference to “male strength and competence” and “female sensitivity and feeling” might initially look like a good idea, but those images of male and female are drawn directly from the conspiracy. A more useful way of thinking about the Androgyne would be to unhook “male” from “strength and competence” and “female” from “sensitivity and feeling” and allow those characteristics to reside side-by-side without any connection to biological sex. The Androgyne is then not a combination of conspiratorial masculine and feminine, but a separate category altogether, and one which itself is not a fixed, prescribed archetype, rather a broad spectrum of positions. We are not looking for a “third gender” here: we are looking for multiple alternatives to the conspiratorial binary understanding of gender.

This separate category altogether, one which itself is not a fixed, prescribed archetype, rather a broad spectrum of positions, is an ideal segue from our two strategies of thinking about different types of archetypes to thinking differently about archetypes. To begin with, as I have already noted, the mythopoetic understanding of archetypes is a greatly simplified version of Jung’s presentation of archetypes. A vast volume of words could be consumed discussing what Jung did and did not mean, but suffice to say he was a product of his time and cannot be taken as an exemplar for how people should be thinking about gender in the present day.

Of significant interest is the 2009 publication of Jung’s visionary journal The Red Book, the editor of which—Sonu Shamdasani—claims is “nothing less than the central book in his oeuvre,” and that his other work cannot really be understood without reading this in tandem. There is little in The Red Book that resonates with a mythopoetic understanding of masculinity, and it would be interesting to speculate how the mythopoetic movement would have been different if it had this source at its disposal. Remember, too, that Jung was at heart a mythologist: he constructed ways of understanding reality through and as myth. The mythopoetic movement repeatedly referred to story and myth, and repeatedly conflated it with reality: for archetypes to be useful they must genuinely be considered mythical, with all the caveats that implies.

Further still, however much we unpack what Jung may or may not have understood by archetypes, his is not the only view on the matter. As one commenter (Butters) on the first chapter of The Masculinity Conspiracy writes:

I hope your definition of archetypes do not rest on one definition of them only—the classical Jungian definition. The Archetypal Psychology school of thought, which branched from Jung in the work of James Hillman, and was popularized by Thomas Moore (e.g. Care of the Soul) is at least as popular as the classical definition of archetypes. Difference being that the classical school perpetuates stereotypes under the name archetypes, whereas the movement launched by Hillman and co has philosophically corrected the limitations of the former. The Archetypal Psychology branch of Jung’s Analytical psychology is almost completely compatible with the notion of a plurality of masculinities and indeed promotes the cause very strongly among the masses! For instance, Hillman and co state that both sexes have equal access to roles of nurturer (Geb/Gaia), the Warrior (Athena/Ares), the lover of beauty (Adonis/Aphrodite), the power/status seekers (Zeus/Hera).

I don’t cite Butters here to agree with him (I’m not sufficiently informed on archetypal psychology to have a useful opinion), rather to demonstrate that there are always different takes on such things, many of which get overlooked by the popular discourse on the subject at hand.

I believe the simplest way to usefully mobilize archetypes is to think of them not as models for (in our case) masculinity, rather as elements of self (which may or may not be gendered). For example, I’ll list some elements that first spring to mind when I describe myself (in no specific order): writer, thinker, father, husband, loner, son, neurotic, visionary, polemicist, contrarian. All these words describe elements that go towards the construction of my complete sense of self, but no single one gets anywhere near that complete sense of self. Indeed, to pick any single word almost immediately suggests a narrow perception of self that borders on pathological.

Thinking archetypically in a useful way would therefore involve identifying a range of individual elements and fashioning from them a sufficiently nuanced sense of self. Some of these elements (such as father, husband, or son) may have a clear connection with biological sex; most will not. Any archetypal element that is not based in biological sex is socially constructed and therefore available to all people, male or female. The conspiracy works by reducing the number of elements available to a person to a very low number (say, one to four elements), and then—in practice—assigning those elements exclusively to either men or women. To counter the conspiracy we make any number of elements available to the individual and allow them to be assigned to any individual, in any way the individual sees fit (this is not about prescribing values, after all, rather enabling possibilities, which may not always be pleasant).

The result is an “elemental suite” or an “archetypal suite” that is bound by nothing other than the individual’s values, characteristics and desires. It is unlikely that a sufficiently nuanced suite could be described as either masculine or feminine. But, importantly, this does not reduce the suite to being “gender neutral” (as Mansfield would have argued in the History chapter). Instead, the suite is “gender unique,” each one bearing witness to the specific way the individual navigates their complex journey between biological sex, the expectations of a prescriptive conspiratorial model of gender, and aspirations for freedom from that conspiratorial model.

Importantly, some of those suites may look identical to a conspiratorial understanding of gender, as genuine freedom must allow for any particular combination. The big difference is that in the model I am suggesting, the suite that resembles the conspiracy is achieved via a proactive choice to construct that suite, not because it is “natural” or “appropriate.” This is the fundamental difference between my message and the message you will read in most popular books about masculinity. When I critique conspiratorial models of masculinity, I am not denying those models (although I am showing how they are problematic); rather, I am denying the conspiratorial claim about what masculinity should be, and offering not a specific alternative but the freedom to choose.

 

08: Conclusion

The Conspiracy

In the very first paragraph of this book I asked you to look in a mirror. I asked you to contemplate certain details and to notice that there is an increasingly large disconnect between who you feel you are and the person in the mirror, a distance between the two yous that is difficult to articulate in words. I then asked you to imagine that gap between the mirror and every man in the world alive right now, then for every man who has ever lived. That’s a lot of disconnect, a vast space between men and the men in the mirror.

This is largely a thinking exercise about perception and how easy it is to realize that what you think you know—your image in the mirror—can swiftly be called into question. If we can acknowledge that new perceptions can be established even in our own reflection, then we can acknowledge that new perceptions can be established in all aspects of our identify. But there’s also a more literal sense to this disconnect between men and the men in the mirror. The masculinity conspiracy is chiefly a dissociative exercise: it forces an unwanted space between men and their potential in order to pursue its own ends (which we will explore shortly). Let’s briefly look back on the previous chapters to see where these spaces are constructed:

  • Within the context of history the dissociative space is constructed by tethering men to the past. The conspiracy argues there are innumerable historical precedents for its model of masculinity, demonstrating it is not just culturally and socially determined, but also biologically determined.

  • Within the context of sexuality the dissociative space is constructed by tethering men to sexual polarity. The conspiracy argues that men’s rightful sexuality is defined chiefly by assertiveness in opposition to women’s sexual receptivity.

  • Within the context of relationships the dissociative space is constructed by tethering men to specific relational dynamics. The conspiracy argues that men and women think and communicate differently and that these differences must be decoded and mastered in order for men to be successful with women.

  • Within the context of fatherhood the dissociative space is constructed by tethering men to a narrow understanding of boyhood. The conspiracy argues that boys develop in particular ways and that to ignore this is to rob them of their true nature.

  • Within the context of archetypes the dissociative space is constructed by tethering men to simplistic behavioral templates. The conspiracy argues there are a small number of mythical or metaphorical models of manhood to emulate that encapsulate its true essence.

  • Within the context of spirituality the dissociative space is constructed by tethering men to Biblical masculinity. The conspiracy argues that sacred texts provide a divinely ordained model of masculinity that does not only show men how to behave, but resists the feminization of faith and society in general.

In each chapter I have unraveled some of the initial problems with these lines of thought, and provided some solutions for re-thinking them in more useful ways, all the while opening up a more fruitful space for your own visions of counter-conspiratorial masculinity rather than a specific alternative.

However, the conspiracy has done a very good job of convincing both men and women that its vision of masculinity is correct. It has, after all, operated in most places throughout most times. But it does not rest on its laurels. It continually regulates the domain over which it reigns and asserts in a mantra-like fashion phrases like “real,” “authentic,” or “true” masculinity. It also continually seeks out other domains in which to function, and is very clever at describing all sorts of “new,” “evolved,” and “counter-cultural” masculinities that continue to perpetuate conspiratorial values, turning over old orthodoxies and creating new ones. The conspiracy is dead! Long live the conspiracy!

Throughout this book I have shown you numerous examples of the conspiracy at work. But let’s dig a bit deeper into how the conspiracy works. Remember Michael Barkun’s description of conspiracy thinking from the introductory chapter? Barkun states it is characterized by three chief elements. First, nothing happens by accident: there is always intent behind actions; the willed nature of reality is paramount. Second, nothing is as it seems: the source of a conspiracy tends to conceal its activities through the appearance of innocence or misinformation. Third, everything is connected: patterns abound in conspiracy; exposing conspiracy is about unveiling these hidden connections.

I confess that when I initially mobilized the conspiracy motif it was done so rather cynically. While I was genuinely interested in finding a different way of discussing masculinity that moved beyond the binary proposed on the one hand by feminists and on the other hand by men’s rights advocates, I was also simply hoping to capture the imagination of readers who were into conspiracy books. Conspiracy logic as defined by Barkun seemed reasonably applicable to gender politics, so I used it. But as I have finished each chapter of this book, I have fallen more into line with the idea that the conspiracy motif is far more applicable than I originally imagined.

As we have seen throughout the text, nothing happens by accident: Each chapter has demonstrated that while the conspiracy claims its presentation of masculinity is simply the way things are, a specific and proactive agenda is being fulfilled. As we have seen throughout the text, nothing is as it seems: Each chapter has demonstrated that while the conspiracy claims its presentation of masculinity is natural and inevitable, there are clear alternatives, and not just imagined and theoretical alternatives, but ones that are surprisingly easy to embody. And as we have seen throughout the text, everything is connected: Each chapter has demonstrated that while the conspiracy claims to be based on “evidence” and “science,” this is often a closed ecology of connected people and ideas that simply choose not to consider conflicting options, referring instead only to those who confirm their worldview.

But how does the conspiracy pull it off? How has it managed to perpetuate itself so successfully for so many centuries and in so many places? Answering that question is in itself another book. Today, one of the chief problems with the conspiracy is that it robs us of the ability to even realize it is in operation. This is what all the “real,” “authentic,” and “true” language is all about. The conspiracy is framed not as a specific regulatory dynamic with a particular agenda; rather, there is no conspiracy, only the way that it is. By concealing the fact that it even exists—by appealing to the supposedly “natural” and “common sense”—the conspiracy hides in plain sight. There are some nice fictional precedents for this tactic. Think, for example, of the movie The Usual Suspects in which the villain, Keyser Söze, secures the potency of his evil persona by creating an aura of doubt about his existence. As he sits before his clueless interrogator, Söze transparently shares his methodology with the memorable line, “the greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn’t exist.” (The more literary among you may prefer the same point as made earlier by C. S. Lewis, and before him Charles Baudelaire).

Further still, the conspiracy robs us of the critical thinking skills required to identify that it is hiding in plain sight in the first place, let alone to do something about it. This is achieved by the extraordinary dumbing down of information around us, which I have referred to in earlier chapters. It has been an interesting exercise as this book has been published online to witness a small but persistent number of readers complain that the style of writing is too complex and “intellectual.” On various occasions I have been asked to cut out the jargon, make it easier to read, provide allegedly “real life examples” and so on, which would all bring the text more into line with the kind of self-help books many folks seem to have become conditioned to expect.

The impression seems to be that this is an “academic” book trying to pass itself off a something altogether different. But this is genuinely not the case. If you think this writing is academic, you clearly have not read much academic writing lately (which often I can’t figure out either). The demand for ever-simpler writing, bullet points, instant insights, micro-summaries and so forth render books incapable of addressing the complexity of the issues at hand. Masculinity is a complex issue: you might think some of the popular writers are writing about it with “clarity,” but they are simply stripping it of all subtlety and nuance. It’s certainly desirable to aim for clarity, but at some point compromise becomes fatal: it might result in a slot on Oprah’s couch, but it will not result in anything useful. Complex issues require appropriately complex handling.

More than this, the status quo critiqued here requires people not to think with appropriate complexity, subtlety and nuance in order to perpetuate its nonsense agenda. So when I hear complaints about the book being too complex, my immediate thought is not that I’ve failed in my task to clearly communicate, rather that the reader is showing how far they are conditioned into the conspiracy (a classic example of conspiratorial logic, if ever there was one!). It also seems a bit fishy to me when critics will focus on what they claim to be stylistic problems rather than the topics under discussion, which seems a rather transparent diversion tactic.

Instead of meeting the reader behind such complaints fully on their ground, I ask them to meet me half way (as I have already moved from my natural domain into the middle ground). In doing so we collectively claw back some of the critical thinking territory lost in our dumbed-down world. My aim, too, in writing in an appropriately complex manner is to pay readers the respect they deserve in assuming they are capable of understanding complex issues: an important but increasingly rare gesture. I find that in my face-to-face communications with people (often in rather random circumstances) I can get into some really quite complex territory, the like of which it is assumed they are not capable of reading in books. This assumption was made even clearer to me recently on receiving comments from several “professional” readers from an unnamed mind-body-spirit publisher who read The Masculinity Conspiracy. Have a look at the following feedback:

  • Reader 1: I like the style. My question is how much more is it than an extended book(s) review, (most of which I haven’t read, so confess ignorance in the area), and how we’re going to sell it.

  • Reader 2: Love the short blurb, it immediately made me want to read the book. Extremely well written in a reader friendly way that makes even someone completely uninterested in the subject sit up and take notice. The book certainly makes some good points and although it examines other books on the subject it does so in a style which, although serious, is light and sometimes humorous. I found this an enjoyable read and it made me stop and think and in doing so I realized that a part of my mind had already explored these issues but without having anywhere to express them. I’m not sure how many people would actually buy it.

  • Reader 3: I agree, well written, great style and an interesting subject, but general sales will be a problem.

This is an excellent example of how the conspiracy regulates society. Here we have three professional readers who all seem to like the book, but they can’t imagine anyone else liking it! Certainly, they know the market and what people tend to buy. But people buy largely in accordance with their conditioning by the conspiracy, so to narrowly serve that market is to serve the conspiracy. This is forgivable for people who do not know any better, but I find it troubling that people who knowingly like a counter-conspiratorial text choose not to publish it, as this is nothing short of spineless collaboration. One could be forgiven for thinking it was not that these readers could not imagine anyone else liking the book, rather they did not want anyone else liking the book. But that would be the kind of paranoia Barkun identifies as being symptomatic of conspiratorial thinking, rather than exposing it

Instead, endless books are published and celebrated that both perpetuate conspiratorial values and congratulate readers for being in agreement, which in turn makes readers feel better about those values, and thus that closed ecology of ideas continues.

This leads to the final twist in the act of self-concealment: despite all the dumbing down, the conspiracy will often paradoxically give the impression that the people it dupes are extremely clever. Barkun echoes this point in his description of conspiracy thinking, noting that it will often mimic mainstream scholarship (I spoke a bit about the use of the term “research” and flaky PhDs back in the Relationships chapter). Not only do conspiracy writers give the impression they are extremely clever, citing other fancy writers, describing themselves as “philosophers” and perhaps belonging to some kind of vaporous Institute of Evolved Personhood (often little more than a paper entity with a bank account set up to accept donations and workshop fees), they also talk about their followers as being extremely clever. This is a cunning maneuver as it at once makes people feel very special for agreeing with the conspiratorial worldview, implies that if you do not agree with it you must not be very clever, and neutralizes momentum to move beyond it to something genuinely clever (or, more accurately, and as we shall see next, something elegantly simple, because while the machinations of the conspiracy are complex, its ultimate source is not).

In sum, the conspiracy functions via numerous sleights of hand:

  • Through its prescriptive vision of masculinity the conspiracy produces a forced space between men and their potential.

  • By giving the impression that there is no conspiracy—simple the way things are—the conspiracy hides in plain sight.

  • By robbing us of the critical thinking skills required to identify it exists, the conspiracy prevents us from imagining a viable alternative.

But identifying how the conspiracy manifests—and even how it functions—is not the end of the story. Indeed, the chief problem remains: what is ultimately behind the conspiracy? When talking about this with people there is often an assumption that I am doing something very simply here: namely, using the word “conspiracy” instead of “patriarchy.” That initially sounds quite plausible, as a good number of the points I have made in this book are based on a feminist analysis of patriarchy. Others points are based on an understanding of “hegemonic masculinity” as described by Raewyn Connell, which is about how men regulate themselves as well as women in relation to time-honored ways of being a man. Still others are based on queer theory, which is about subverting and demonstrating the fluidity of meaning that surrounds terms like “masculinity.” All these ways of looking at gender foreground patriarchy, so it is certainly a reasonable assumption that patriarchy is the conspiracy. But it is only a partial answer.

While understanding patriarchy is a crucial aspect of exposing the conspiracy, we have to move past typically entrenched positions on this subject. In debates surrounding men and masculinities, there are two commonly held positions on patriarchy. On the one hand are those with feminist sympathies who talk about patriarchy, and how this marginalizes and oppresses women (and atypical men). On the other hand are men’s rights advocates who identify the many problems suffered by men in society (such as poor health and education standards, violence, incarceration, social isolation, suicide, and so on) and simply do not see claims about patriarchy as valid any more.

But there is a way to reconcile these two seemingly opposed positions. Yes, it is true that patriarchy exists, but patriarchy is not the conspiracy, rather patriarchy is mobilized by the conspiracy. The conspiracy co-opts men to oppress women, a statement which supports the feminist claim that patriarchy operates as a regulating force within society. But, paradoxically, the conspiracy has little interest in men as individuals, which explains why men simultaneously enjoy the benefits of systemic privilege while often being on the shitty end of the stick as individuals. (There is a lot more complexity to be unpacked in this paragraph, but this will have to wait for another time).

It is crucial for those with a feminist worldview to realize that patriarchy is ultimately a tool of the conspiracy, not an end in itself. And while there are only few radical separatist feminists around these days, it is therefore important to acknowledge that there is nothing inherently bad about men, simply that they have been co-opted by the conspiracy in such an extraordinarily effective way that they usually don’t even realize it has happened. Of course, this does not absolve men of the ills wrought by patriarchy, nor of the requirement to counter its oppressive effects. It is also crucial for those with a men’s rights worldview to acknowledge that patriarchy does exist, to understand the complexity that comes with owning systemic privilege (the kind of thing that still results in men often earning more money than women for the same job) and understanding this is different to individual privilege (from which individual men may or may benefit).

Clearly, if patriarchy is not the conspiracy then there must be some higher—overarching—force (maybe even, according to Barkun’s original conspiratorial formula, a “demonic force”). There are plenty of people I speak to who, having agreed that patriarchy is not the conspiracy, then swiftly move on to the conclusion that it is capitalism that is the conspiracy. There is, after all, a long-standing Marxist tradition that shows how capitalism is the driving oppressive force in society, and it is easy to imagine that it is this that mobilizes patriarchy in the way described above. There are other contenders too: classism, racism, and so on. All these contenders either mobilize patriarchy in some way, or we can imagine how the conspiracy is using them as a vehicle for perpetuating its prescriptive vision for masculinity.

All these contenders are reasonable, but the conspiracy ultimately works on a broader level still. And it’s nothing obscure or esoteric, nothing that requires a PhD in developmental psychology or political science to understand. The conspiracy is simply power and domination. A good place to get a description of this is Walter Wink’s Engaging the Powers: Discernment and Resistance in a World of Domination (a quick nod to Luke Devlin, whose comments on earlier online chapters drew the Wink connection). Wink is a theologian, so genuinely tends towards the forces at hand being “demonic” and our salvation from them being of the literal variety. However, the way he describes power and domination is also largely valid from an atheistic point of view.

Wink argues there has been a domination myth at the heart of humanity that dates back thousands of years in which “might makes right.” Quite early in his book, Wink also tables a version of the masculinity conspiracy, stating “this myth also inadvertently reveals the price men have paid for power they acquired over women: complete servitude to their earthly rules and gods. Women for their part were identified with inertia, chaos, and anarchy.”

So the conspiracy is an abstract assertion of power and domination over people at an individual, institutional and systemic level (in other words, at every level). In our present context, the conspiracy demands a particular form of masculinity that lends itself towards domination (think again of all the references we’ve heard about aggression, assertiveness, warriors, and so on) and mobilizes men to put that domination to work against women and other men via various methods such as patriarchy.

But in exactly the same way that the conspiracy constructs a particular form of masculinity (demonstrating its changeability), so too is the conspiracy itself constructed. Wink argues the domination myth took hold through various accidents of social and cultural construction and warfare (and, importantly for Wink, humanity’s Fall from grace in the eyes of God), to the point where it seemed ingrained in human nature. This does not mean that domination is inherent in humanity, simply that it was forced up on it, as noted by Wink: “The struggle for domination meant that many humane cultural options that people might have preferred were closed off. The self-interests of individuals were subordinated, often even sacrificed, to the interests of the larger systems in which they were embedded.”

Identifying how the conspiratorial machine operates then becomes increasingly simple. Domination as the myth of default human behavior took hold, and we can see how this filters across society. Wink claims, “power lost by men through submission to a ruling elite was compensated by power gained over women, children, hired workers, slaves, and the land.” In that sentence alone we see our previous contenders for the conspiracy: patriarchy, capitalism, class, race, and how they all serve the domination myth.

The domination myth became the consensus reality, taking on a life of its own: this is why it is impossible to identify a “person” behind the conspiracy, because the conspiracy is the sum of all our actions and complicity within the domination myth. Further still, Wink argues that even the leaders who run the various modes of domination do not have genuine agency in the matter: their roles are conferred upon them by the domination system. For Wink, “people have thus become slaves of their own evolving systems, rather than civilized society being the servant of its members.”

In order for such a false consensus reality to take hold, we—as actors in this conspiratorial drama—must allow ourselves to be blinkered by the conspiracy. Or, in the parlance again of The Matrix movie, we must choose to take the blue pill: “wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe.” Wink claims that “whatever the System tells our brains is real is what we are allowed to notice; everything else must be ignored.” This explains how the “natural” and “common sense” appear to prevail in the conspiracy, despite there being easy-to-grasp alternatives: our conspiracy-conditioned brains simply cannot see them, they must be ignored.

Have you ever been faced by a large quandary (let’s say third world poverty) that seems so blindingly easy to fix (a more equitable distribution of global capital), but the solution seems so obvious and simple that you feel it must be wrong—otherwise we’d be doing it, right? That’s the domination myth at work: the consensus reality it constructs will not allow us to accept the blindingly obvious solution. Similarly, the conspiracy will not allow us to accept the blindingly obvious alternatives to the model of masculinity it demands.

For many, the real horror is not that this has happened throughout human history (although this is bad enough), but rather coming to the realization that this trick has been pulled on us personally and our role within it. Wink states, “It is only after we experience liberation from primary socialization to the world-system that we realize how terribly we have violated our authentic personhood—and how violated we have been.” For some, the horror is too great: Plug me back into the matrix! For others, the pulling back of the curtain to see the “great” wizard is a genuinely empowering revelation: I have met people who have woken up to this fact and rapidly changed their lives in fundamental ways.

So to recap, while it is important to understand how the conspiracy works in terms of masculinity, it is also important to understand what is actually behind the conspiracy:

  • The conspiracy mobilizes patriarchy by encouraging men to oppress women (and atypical men), but paradoxically has little interest in men as individuals.

  • Patriarchy is not the conspiracy, nor are other plausible-sounding contenders such as capitalism, classism and racism.

  • Power and domination are at the heart of the conspiracy.

  • The domination myth is simply a consensus realty. Despite the claims of the conspiracy, it is not natural or inevitable.

The Solution

Our challenge, of course, is what we then do about it, this thing that has had us duped for most—if not all—of human history. The good news for us is that we do not necessarily have to immediately construct glorious alternatives to bring about great change, rather simply withdraw our support from the conspiratorial status quo. Wink cites the sixteenth-century French political philosopher Étienne de La Boétie who wrote in reference to the masses who allowed themselves to be hoodwinked by rulers who really had very little power over them: “I do not ask that you place hand upon the tyrant to topple him over, but simply that you support him no longer; then you will behold him, like a great colossus whose pedestal has been pulled away, fall of his own weight and break into pieces.”

I’m not sure it’s quite that simple, but it’s a damn good start. In order to withdraw our support we need to firstly and primarily start thinking differently. This is the point where I often hear people moan about over-intellectualizing at the expense of action. But this too is the conspiracy speaking through the person in front of me, a cunning act of ventriloquism. If we do not firstly create a new thinking space there can be no useful action. Without the thinking space we are either rendered impotent by the conspiracy and do nothing, or we act without sufficient thought, both of which play expertly into the hands of the conspiracy.

Creating new thinking spaces allows us two equally valuable options. First is the obvious path of significantly changing our lifestyles. More people than you imagine do this. I have met a number of people who live radically counter-cultural lifestyles who were once some kind of deeply entrenched cog in the machine. These folks are not, as is so easy to imagine, people who never bought into the system in the first place, folks chasing an endless adolescence and delaying the inevitable perils of settling down under the yoke of responsibility. These folks have woken up to the reality that alternatives are possible and take only a relatively minor leap of faith to manifest (relatively minor, that is, to the alternative of spending the rest of one’s life being plugged into the matrix). I don’t want to speak further here about specific alternatives because they depend on individual needs and desires, and I am more interested in catalyzing the thought processes for people to construct those alternatives for themselves.

Second, creating new thinking spaces allows us to think afresh about our current circumstances. You may, for example, perceive yourself to be an administrative drone working for some nameless organization. You don’t need to pack it all in and move to a commune to embody a solution. The solution lies chiefly in our interior, and despite efforts to the contrary in various conspiratorial domains, this still belongs to us as free agents. And don’t make the mistake of thinking that you’re not a free agent, because you most certainly are. You may well be locked into a job and a mortgage with all manner or ties (some you’re happy about, others you’re not), but you remain free to think yourself out of the conspiracy while remaining in your current circumstances.

The conspiracy is a confidence trick, and it is surprisingly easy to call its bluff. Indeed, it may be more valuable to be an “enemy within” the system by reimagining your current circumstances than to opt out of them. You can create a quiet revolution: subtle re-thinking, transgression and subversion. You might be surprised at the liminal space you can make around you which, when connected with that of others, gently transforms rather than overturns the environments in which you live and work.

To create new thinking spaces we can return initially to the mirror. When we look in the mirror and begin to notice the disconnect between our interior and the person in the mirror, an obvious question bubbles to the surface of our consciousness: Who am I? Whether your worldview is spiritual or humanistic, this points to a fundamentally existential line of thought which is crucial to exposing the conspiracy. The conspiracy wants to tell you who you are, populating our interior with all those assumptions about masculinity (and femininity) we have worked through in the previous chapters. But the existential line of questioning has no time for such packaged answers: it wants to know the fundamental question: Why?

If you can, go and pick up a copy of Irvin Yalom’s Existential Psychotherapy (actually, any of his books will probably do the job, and also be lighter to carry home from the library). Yalom does an excellent job of unpacking the four existential ultimate concerns: death, meaninglessness, isolation and freedom. (As it happens, I’m not convinced these four concerns are equally ultimate. For example, isolation and freedom are like water off a duck’s back to me, but death and meaninglessness—two sides of the same coin—routinely keep me awake at night).

I would suggest if you have not wrangled with these issues at some point, you are not paying sufficient attention. Yalom demonstrates how many of our neuroses come down to trying to address these issues, often in unconscious or inarticulate ways. We grapple with death: how do we live in the face of death, what strategies do we employ in an attempt to cheat death? We grapple with meaning: How do we construct meaning, what’s the damn point of it all if we’re going to die anyway? We grapple with isolation: How do we navigate this bleak territory that keeps us isolated both from ourselves and other people? We grapple with freedom: How do we accept the horror that we are free to choose (and, indeed, have already chosen) or at least interpret the circumstances in which we find ourselves, rather than putting the blame elsewhere?

These four concerns alone are sufficient to fill a lifetime of contemplation and anxiety. I am told it is possible to move beyond this line of questioning and if not to find actual answers then at least make peace with the questions. I’m not convinced of this personally, but at 37 years old am nevertheless open to changing my mind on the matter at some period in the future when I have discovered mental tranquility

The point is, this line of questioning will open up the thinking space necessary to counter the conspiracy. I don’t care what your conclusions are at the moment: I’m simply suggesting they will at the very least disrupt the hold the conspiracy has over you. (Of course, it’s not necessarily good: there are some dangerous conclusions, such as extremists who go to murderous lengths to demonstrate some kind of post-ethical freedom to be who they want to be). In short, existentialism is back!

Once we are routinely creating new thinking spaces we can begin to look outside of ourselves. Again, I’m not interested here in identifying specific solutions, rather making basic points that will enable those solutions to emerge within the experiences of you, the reader. On a number of occasions throughout this book I have stated that in the same way that there is a masculinity conspiracy, there is also a femininity conspiracy: As the flip-side of the conspiratorial coin, the masculinity conspiracy requires an equally prescriptive model of femininity to perpetuate its power grab. However, I firmly believe it is the masculinity conspiracy that is more problematic. While the femininity conspiracy asserts power in various ways (an example commonly perceived being the use of sex as a bargaining tool with men, and a shaming tool with other women), it does not have the power footprint of the masculinity conspiracy, which has mobilized patriarchy within our social and cultural systems, and which in turn has extended into a whopping ecological footprint on our planet.

As such, when looking outwards for solutions, the primary agents in overturning the conspiracy must be men. I’ll say it again: the solution lies mostly with men. Of course, this does not absolve women of responsibility, it simply suggests men need to do more work than women. This requires two distinct steps. First, men need to own their individual privilege within patriarchy, and also their part in the systemic privilege that patriarchy confers upon them. Again, this may seem counter-intuitive to some men whose experience echoes the shocking statistics of men and poor health, violence, isolation and so on. But them’s the breaks, and the conspiracy wants you to resist it as to do so continues its concealment. Second, once men have owned their role in patriarchy, they must do something about it: but, crucially, not be shamed by it.

There are a small number of men who, having discovered their complicity in patriarchy, become overwhelmingly shamed, and retreat into self-loathing. (This is the type of “mangina” perceived and bemoaned by hostile men’s rights advocates. As it happens, most of those labeled as such are not bound by shame and self-loathing, rather men healthily seeking to counter patriarchy, but nevertheless it can be an issue.) This type of shamed individual sometimes has a habit of assuming women (and queer people) have the moral high-ground when it comes to issues about gender. As such, the solutions tend to have a focus towards their agency, when as much attention needs to be given to “regular” men’s agency.

I have already mentioned this above in regard to the two commonly held positions in the gender debate, but I firmly believe the solution lies in getting men to understand that patriarchy paradoxically has little interest in them as individuals. There is a tremendous amount of energy within men’s rights communities, but it is too often hostile towards women and feminism. Many of the problems those communities rightly identify are often blamed on the too-far-swung pendulum of women’s gains in recent decades. But this is not the case. Women’s gains do not come at the expense of men’s; it is not a zero sum game. Women’s gains have been earned by claiming what is rightfully and justly theirs: they have extracted this from the conspiracy, not from men.

I believe that once it becomes clear to men that they have been co-opted by the conspiracy into patriarchy to further the domination myth, and that it is this and not women’s gains that is responsible for the problems men face in society, they will see the benefit of overturning both patriarchy and the conspiracy. And they will do so swiftly. All the energy that is currently wasted on finger-pointing from men’s rights advocates can then be usefully spent elsewhere. I also believe that such a realization will allow the kind of healing in men’s psyches that has been sought since the men’s movement flourished in the early 1990s, but which to date has been misdirected by the conspiracy into concerns about the feminization of society.

However, while it is primarily men who must step up and counter the conspiracy, a further necessity is the realization that we are all in this together: men, women, gay, straight, and anyone who quite rightly resists such categorization. As gender and identity politics evolved over the past forty or so years it has been necessary for a certain amount of separatism to eventuate. Women and queer people, for example, needed to get together on their own, celebrate and assert their identities, and hold their oppressors accountable for the injustices dealt to them.

While it remains as important as ever for such specific voices to be heard, it is now necessary to complement these with strong alliances. This means moving beyond the women’s movement, and beyond the men’s movement, towards a people’s movement. Do not hear me say that individual oppressed voices—such as women and queer people—should be in any way erased in such a movement. A people’s movement is built precisely on the different experiences of its members: it celebrates and advocates for those differences. However, a people’s movement is not defined by specific differences. A people’s movement is defined by the assumption of everybody’s differences. It is in such an alliance that the critical mass is achieved for a multiplicity of new thinking spaces and resulting actions that will overturn the conspiracy not just at the individual, but at the systemic level: the great colossus whose pedestal has been pulled away falls of his own weight and breaks into pieces.

And while the people’s movement is born out of gendered identity, it does not stop there. It is inevitable that the kind of thought processes—and then actions—that go into supporting genuine gender difference extend into other domains, those other sites of oppression referred to above: class, race and so on. The people’s movement demands freedom from power and domination wherever it operates. The people’s movement shouts, “The emperor is wearing no clothes!” The people’s movement calls the conspiracy’s bluff. It’s so simple, so elegant. And it all starts with looking in the mirror, and questioning who it is who looks back.

 

The Masculinity Conspiracy - Archetypes ((tags:archetypes,criticism))

A critique of Menswork and Archetypes. The full book can be found on-line at http://masculinityconspiracy.wordpress.com/ 

 

The material is offered chapter by chapter on the right hand side of the page.

Archetypes http://masculinityconspiracy.wordpress.com/book-chapters/chapter6a/

The Conspiracy

So far we have looked at how several key themes—history, sexuality, relationships, and fatherhood—are mobilized by the conspiracy in society at large to promote a specific and prescriptive vision of masculinity that bears little witness to the diversity of men’s experiences. In this chapter we will look at how archetypes have been used as a way of understanding masculinity within the context of men’s movement literature that began gaining momentum in the early 1990s, and which has continuing influence today.

An archetype is a template that can be used to describe various universal themes and motifs, most commonly employed in myths. The psychologist Carl Jung used archetypes as a way of understanding particular models of human behavior and characteristics, the basis of which can be discovered deep in the human psyche, and is shared across people and cultures. To be sure, this is a very simplistic description of Jung’s understanding of archetypes, which was both complex and dependent on the stages of his own conceptual development. However, the way the men’s movement uses Jungian archetypes is equally simplistic, so it will suffice for our discussion, at least as we allow the conspiracy to talk in its own voice in the first section, The Conspiracy. We’ll tentatively scratch the surface of what else resides behind the concept of archetypes in the following sections, the analytical The Problem, and the more visionary The Solution.

The two books examined in this chapter are themselves archetypal of men’s movement literature, or a particular type of men’s movement called the mythopoetic men’s movement, which made use of myth, metaphor and story to understand models for masculinity. The mythopoetic men’s movement is most notably connected with the poet Robert Bly, and we will look at his 1990 book Iron John: A Book About Men. Bly’s book started a movement that garnered significant media attention at the time with stories about men’s groups taking place in the woods, where partially-clothed and bearded men would get in touch with their “inner,” “mature,” or “deep” masculinity. Shortly after this came our second book, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette. These two books catalyzed a large volume of literature that, while less read today within the context of the men’s movement, is still influential in the way various forms of personal development coaches, popular psychologists and spiritual gurus describe masculinity.

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The Return of the King ((Tags: practioner, introduction, shadow work, menswork))

Psychological work with men

Jamie Elkon

As men we are particularly prone to the construction of fragile (though often quite stupendous) narcissistic defenses, which wait in ambush for unsuspecting travelers upon our life’s journey. Whether conscious or not, we maneuver others onto the traps we have laid and when they snap shut, we puff up with righteous indignation at the injustice of it all, thereby inexorably repeating and reinforcing the alienation with ourselves and particularly with those we claim to love.


Jamie Elkon is a Clinical Psychologist in Cape Town. He works in private practice and has a special interest in working with men’s issues. Please click here to view Jamie’s profile.


The philosopher Schopenhauer claimed that mankind was doomed to vacillate eternally between distress and boredom. Indeed, many men believe themselves cursed to living half-lives, wandering the periphery of their own awareness, stumbling blindly through destructive old behavioural patterns. Our attempts to nourish our stale, brittle selves with repetitive self defeating strategies savagely limits our growth and a deeper connection with our core selves.

As a clinician who has the honour of working with men, I have borne witness to many pale deaths, depression, anxiety, addiction, whether it be to power, sex or even servitude, men continue to remain entangled in their Shadows. Many of us have long struggled with how to understand and make use of the emotional wounds we have gathered, emotional wounds we all bear. 
As men we are particularly prone to the construction of fragile (though often quite stupendous) narcissistic defenses, which wait in ambush for unsuspecting travellers upon our life’s journey. Whether conscious or not, we maneuver others onto the traps we have laid and when they snap shut, we puff up with righteous indignation at the injustice of it all, thereby inexorably repeating and reinforcing the alienation with ourselves and particularly with those we claim to love.

What, you may ask is the alternative to this aimless wandering? Is it to be a good citizen and provider? To pay your taxes, to be reassured and soothed by your congruence with those around you? To slowly become lulled by the security of the known, while your heart aches and your dreams of adventure and passion slowly fade, replaced by your numbed daily rituals of work, docile husbandry and that after dinner drink. Maybe the automatic life was the freedom you sought, the release from the discordance of being, from colliding emotions, from the burden of growth. 
Men’s work requires courage before the abyss of possibility. You will have to deal with your core issues (for the rest of your life). By not examining your core issues, you will be doomed to repeat them and you will live at the mercy of your defenses, for it is your defenses, not your wound, that arrests your growth.

Men’s work will challenge you to face your shadow, that which you do not want to be, that which you find frightening and threatening to your self image, that which follows you wherever you go. Through an examination of your shadow defenses and by keeping that shadow in front of you where you can see it, a man can stop defending so exhaustively, so unconsciously and begin to develop the capacity to live with integrity and in alignment with his core self.

I offer a few territories of the male psyche, which are explored and developed through a journey into men’s work.

THE LOVER, embodied through a man’s connection with the beauty and richness of the world. The building of an emotional connection with his sadness and the ability for a man to call upon his love to help him start anew.

The WARRIOR, embodied through a man’s capacity for conscious thought and clear action in the world. The building of a connection to the fire and passion within a warrior’s heart. The exploration of anger, learning to wield anger responsibly and consciously.

THE MAGICIAN, embodied through a man’s connection with his intuition and introspection. The building of a connection to his capacity to heal, himself and those around him.  An exploration of his fears, of making them conscious and visible so that he can learn to face them and not run from them.

THE KING, embodied through a man’s ability to use mature leadership in an ever changing world. The building of a man’s capacity to stand firm in his truth and to use his wisdom when making decisions. The charting of a path towards a man’s joy.

Imagine if you will, that just before you were incarnated on this planet, your God, your higher self, whatever you wish to call it, leant forward and whispered the varied meanings of your life into your heart. The very centre of your being absorbed these, was imbued with their power and since then…you have been doing everything else. But now and again, whether it be in traffic, or while you are making love to your wife, or looking at the face of your sleeping child, they flutter deeply within you, calling you. If only you would be just be still enough to hear them.


Jamie Elkon is a Clinical Psychologist in Cape Town. He works in private practice and has a special interest in working with men’s issues. If you would like more information about Jamie or to contact him please click here to view Jamie’s profile.

 

The Whole Man - Managing all the Energies ((tags: archetypes))

From: Howard Dunbar [mailto:yourcoach@telkomsa.net]

 

 

Threshold Passages, Inc. http://www.thresholdpassages.org

 

The Whole Man

 

I am the Whole Man. I am wild by nature and I have all the energies in me both gold and shadow. Inside me lives a deep Lover and a strong Warrior. Inside me lives a capable Magician and a just King. The Shadow aspects of these four are present within me too. I have a dark Lover and Warrior – a shadow Magician and King. It is my challenge to manage all of these energies. You are on your way to becoming a man and you will need to learn to contain all these energies. What energy do you feel strongest in you right now? Which one is weakest?

 

I am the Eternal, Golden Lover within all men.

 

Without me…

 

·        You will feel alone & not connected to other people and to the world.

·        Nothing will excite you or turn you on.

·        You will be depressed.

 

Too much of me and…

 

·        You will easily become addicted to what you want.

·        You can’t be loyal to anyone or anything.

·        You will dream your life away and never be satisfied.

 

When I am with you:

 

·        You will have a sense of Wonder and see Beauty around you.

·        You will know the joy of surrender and will love being carried away.

·        You will feel like you belong.

·        You will know how to fall in love and you will not be afraid to be sad.

 

I am the Eternal, Golden Warrior within all men.

 

Without me…

 

·        You will let others run over you and tell you what to do.

·        You won’t be able to finish a project.

·        You won’t be able to defend what you love.

·        You will be unable to suffer.

 

Too much of me and…

 

·        You will seek power & glory for its own sake and stay stuck in having to be a Hero.

·        You will feel threatened by authority.

·        You will always have to win.

·        You won’t be able to tell your Enemy from your Friend.

·        You will look like a  bully and your children will fear you.

 

When I am with you:

 

·        You will defend your own boundaries & the boundaries of others.

·        You will serve a cause greater than yourself.

·        You will know how to think for yourself.

·        You will be able to endure pain and know how to stick it out to the end.

 

I am the Eternal, Golden Magician within all men.

 

Without me…

 

·        You will be unresponsive & dull.

·        You won’t have a sense of humor & will not get jokes.

·        You won’t care about much.

 

Too much of me and…

 

·        You will be a manipulator and will think other people are stupid.

·        You will be a mean trickster.

·        You will be aggressive in a passive way.

 

When I am with you:

 

·        You will be curious about how the world works.

·        You will see beneath the surface of things.

·        You will want to know the Truth.

·        You will think about what you do before & after you do it.

 

I am the Eternal, Golden King within all men.

 

Without me…

 

·        You will be weak and give your power away.

·        You will easily be impressed and your standards will be low.

·        You will be invisible.

 

Too much of me and…

 

·        You will need to be the center of attention and will insult & put down other people.

·        You will be obsessed with power.

·        You will never be satisfied.

 

When I am with you:

 

·        You will feel generous and people around you will feel stronger when they are with you.

·        You will be calm, compassionate, and strong.

·        You will know what is important & what is not.

·        You will be creative.

·        You will know where you are going in life.

·        People will look up to you and you will bless them.

 

Understanding the Archetypes involving the eight functions of type ((tags: beebe, shadow))

The key to understanding exactly how functions play out in each of MBTI's 16 types is the archetypes. Jung's larger theories included hundreds of archetypes, which are "character roles" of sorts (model of a hypothetical person in a particular role), within the psyche. A handful of these began to be associated with the function positions in each type, most notably by Jungian analyst John Beebe.

First, we need to understand that functions (S, N, T, F) or "function attitudes" (Xe, Xi), are perspectives; not behaviors or skills-sets as they are often treated. 
These functions represent the different ways the emotions are brought into relationship with our higher mental operations. They carry what can be called a "sense of meaning" when brought into consciousness by the ego, and when not conscious, come out as felt reactions. In consciousness, they become the "interpreters" of these emotional events.
Every person goes though life having to process both concrete and abstract information, and then make both impersonal, technical (logical) and personal, humane (value) judgments. Where our type theory begins; and the whole key to it, is in the way this processing affects us emotionally. The functions are differentiated when a greater value is given to those choices where emotion and reason are in synch. When we use a function that is destined to become "preferred", we feel an emotional investment in what we're doing, and we feel in control of our emotional life, so we keep on doing it. We tend to be more stimulated by the function. It then appears to "develop" or get "stronger", and behaviors associated with it will increase.

We also should know something about Jung's division of the psyche or "larger Self".

Archetypes are basically defined as "a way of organizing human experience that gives it collective meaning". The conglomeration of images, memories, and emotions surrounding an archetypal core, but unique to ourselves. So they too are tied to our emotional subsystems. This forms the basis of their connection to the functions.
So one such human experience involves "heroically" solving a problem. That is one archetype. Another experience is supporting others. Another one is looking up to others to support us. And another involves finding completeness.

While our type preference lies in the ego, which is the conscious part of the psyche, the archetypes lie in the unconscious part, specifically in the area that is "collective", meaning shared by all people.
The easiest example of the unconscious is simply things we've forgotten. It's still buried in the memory somewhere; we just can no longer readily bring it up consciously. It may come up on its own through dreams, déja-vu's, sudden flashes of memory under stress, etc. Those are personal forms of unconsciousness. There are others that are collective, which are not based on our own memory, but nevertheless shape aspects of human existence such as our inherited images of male and female, good and evil, love and power, that are represented in all cultures. 

When we have individual experiences that fit into these particular collective frames of organization we are discussing, and form a pattern in us, they then enter thepersonal part of the unconscious, and become complexesThe archetype is at the core of the complex. And then the archetype forms an encasement around the function. The function then becomes the operational perspective or "world-view" of that complex.

Thus we develop an inferiority complex around the inferior function, a superiority complex around the superior function, a "best auxiliary" complex (the caretaker) around the auxiliary function, and an "eternal child" complex around the tertiary function. (Beebe) 

However, the ego can still access the function apart from the archetypal "shell". Hence, what many people need to realize is that the function is not fated to be equal to its archetypal carrier. This leaves room for the functions to step away from their carriers and operate independently of what brought them into the ego, and for the carriers to go on being their archetypal selves in the background
It can then be removed from the context of the unconscious structure as needed. They wouldn't be made use of the same way a type preferring the function would. You could even recognize the standpoint a situation calling for the function requires, but the emotions felt in those situations won't be under conscious control.
If not so referenced, then it remains conflated with one of the archetypal complexes, at the limbic level of emotional response.

To sum it up, the different ways the functions manifest:

1) Differentiated (the dominant ego perspective)
2) Undifferentiated: linked to the ego's dominant network
• ego-syntonic archetype complexes (auxiliary-parent; tertiary-child, inferior)
• general "uses" of the functions. We can all process tangible, conceptual, technical and humane data
3) Undifferentiated: Tied to the emotions at the limbic level through imaginal representation —ego dystonic archetypes (Opposing, witch, trickster, demon), other complexes, instinctual reactions

The full name of these elements is function[-attitude] complexes, or "Archetypal Complexes Carrying the Eight Functions", rather than reducing the complexes to the archetypes or the archetypes to the complexes.
Jungian theorist Lenore Thomson (author of Personality Type: An Owner's Manual, and several articles, including Implications of Beebe's Model from a Neurological Standpoint; links at bottom) emphasizes the archetypes being complexes.

To start to understand the archetypes, we first need to understand the process of how they and the associated functions differentiate. This will give an idea of why each particular archetype and function falls in each particular position. The purpose is to present the eight archetypal complexes in a way where they are not conflated with the eight "Xx" "processes" as is often done.

The ego starts with its preferred comfort zone of the inner or outer world. The ego chooses its dominant function, which it uses in its preferred realm.

If Thinking (for instance) is chosen as the dominant, and in the internal world, then everything else is rejected or suppressed by the ego: the external world and the other three functions; Feeling along with both forms of perceiving, which remain undifferentiated. (They are engaged, but not as conscious ego functions, and not really distinguished in orientation, though Jung said they would be associated with the suppressed orientation; this case being the outer world). 

"Whatever we habitually put aside to make our willful conscious choices will inevitably make its alliance with the unconscious -- emotions we don't want to feel, desires we don't recognize, etc. That is, the hero who has successfully established a sense of self and assimilated the good, supportive aspects of a Parental figure will becompensated, in the unconscious, by everything s/he's rejected as not part of this self." (Lenore Thomson, Personality Pathways article).
Another way of portraying this unconscious realm is that the ego's bright light of awareness focuses on one part of reality, plunging the rest into darkness.
What happens is that the person basically sees the part of themselves that perceives and judges through the rejected perspective in the worst light, then suppresses this sense in themselves, and projects it at others instead.

In Jung's theory (originally), the orientations are more attached to the ego itself, than to the functions themselves. So there are really four functions, which the ego engages in one of two different orientations, generating eight "function-attitudes". 

Soon, an auxiliary will be chosen, which will be of the initially suppressed perceiving mode of processing, as well as it being in the suppressed outer orientation. 

These two functions will become apart of heroic and parental complexes. (There is additionally a Persona which also associates with the dominant, which is the face we put forth to the world).

A "child" complex will take on the opposite process from the auxiliary, and align it with the dominant attitude. ("Tertiary Temptation", where the tertiary is more a defense mode that provides justification for remaining in the dominant attitude when the person avoids the tempering influence of the auxiliary). 

This is why the tertiary ends up as the same attitude as the dominant, where it was initially thought to be the opposite attitude, like the auxiliary and inferior. On one hand, the ego tends to reject everything else from its dominant orientation, so that the other functions in essence "collect" in the opposite orientation in this less conscious area. But then you have one of these complexes bringing one of the other functions into the dominant realm, as a sort of backup.

The opposite function from the dominant, Feeling, will be inferior and most suppressed, yet (in the opposite outer orientation) will deep down inside carry a connotation of completeness. It associates with Jung's "anima/animus", which is said to convey a sense of the opposite gender, which makes sense, since it involves an overall sense of "otherness". (i.e. In gender, as well as function and orientation).

These pairs of opposite functions are known as tandems.
Beebe had also named these two tandems. The hero and anima are called the "spine" of consciousness. The parent and child are called the "arm". Since each tandem will consist of either judgment or perception functions, Beebe terms them "rational" or "irrational", being Jung's terms for judgment and perception.

Beebe has made diagrams of these tandems crossing each other, with the spine as vertical, and the arm horizontal, so that it actually looks like a sort of skeletal frame. (And the dominant function is called the "head" while the inferior is the "tail"). But it actually means more than just that. As you may have noticed, the arm deals specifically with our relations to others. The spine, encompassing our main ego function, and the "soul", deals with our relationship to our own selves
These are set in place by the dominant and auxiliary functions. The dominant can be likened to our ego's "operating charter", and the auxiliary is what we often use with others.
So it's like the tertiary and inferior as a pair are a mirror image of the dominant and aux. as far as the rationality of the function, and whether it is associated with self, or with others.

As Beebe has expressed it; the spine, which in defining our identity concerns itself more with what we can be or do in and for ourselves. The arm is more focused on the ways in which we use our consciousnesses to reach out to others. Think; a child will look up to others (for help, approval, etc). Just like the parent will try to help children.

This will prove very helpful in understanding his model, and identifying where particular functions fit in determining a type.

So with all of this, we can see:

For a dominant T, the persona carries a mastery of technical knowledge. Our frail limited humanity (including its emotions) thus feels vulnerable, so we ignore it. We thus feel our humane worth would be fulfilled through impersonal mastery.

For a dom. F, the persona carries an air of humane stature. Vulnerability is losing that, and feeling cold and inhuman. When this happens, then they will turn to a cold, technical perspective.

For a dom. S, the persona carries an air of tangible stability. Venturing into the abstract world of concepts represents vulnerability.

For a dom. N, the persona carries an air of knowing the meanings behind things. Vulnerability is being stuck with only what is tangible.

For an I, the persona focuses on the "depth" of the internal world. The external world is seen as shallow and intrusive.

For an E, the persona focuses on the external world. The internal world is seen as likely obscure, esoteric and too complex.

These orientations then color the perspective of the dominant function.

For the arms, there is a similar dynamic, but not as pronounced, as the auxiliary is not as differentiated as the dominant. So the tertiary is not as suppressed as the inferior.

For example, when confronted with concrete reality I cannot change or even understand, (and SJ's around me say "that's life"), I have always felt sort of like a child. I then might even begin to act like one, pouting, storming off, other rash "tangible" impulsive actions. etc.

Only when I want to have childish relief, do I voluntarily switch to an S perspective. 
I've noticed, that much of my nostalgia involves a desire to redo parts of the past, but with those "that's life" obstacles removed (basically from the privilege of being older).

Of course, with the four function positions being filled by four out of eight function-attitudes or "processes", we often from here get the question of what about the "other four" processes for each type. This is where Beebe came in with his "eight-process model".

In the older theory, the inferior had been deemed what is known as the "shadow"; basically the least conscious part of the psyche. The type with the same four functions in reverse (inferior as hero, tertiary as aux., etc.; the type with all four letters opposite, or "inverse relationship" according to Beebe) was deemed the "shadow type", with a negative manifestation of it erupting under stress. (See www.teamtechnology.co.uk/myersbriggs.html)

Beebe determined that the inferior was actually apart of the "ego-syntonic" (or primary) range, along with the first three, but that it did border on the true "shadow" or "ego-dystonic" range, which is an even less conscious realm where these supposed "other" four processes lied.
(So the true "shadow type" would actually end up as the one sharing only the two middle letters, or its inverse, sharing the first and last letter!) 

Recall, there are really only four functions, which an ego interprets situations through in an inner or outer orientation, suppressing the unchosen orientation into the unconscious.
Jung actually described function orientation in terms of a complete cycle starting from and returning to the preferred attitude, and accessing the opposite orientation along the way. Introverted functions flow from the subject to the object, and then return to the subject as what's irrelevent is subtracted according to the internal blueprint. Extraverted functions flow from the object to the subject, who then merges himself back with the object. So both attitudes are basically implicit in each function. (Hence, really only four functions, once again! And this will explain natural confusion people have telling one attitude of a given function from the other). The ego-syntonic complexes prefer one orientation, which becomes the starting and ending point. So what the ego-dystonic complexes can be seen as doing is "turning up the volume" so to speak, on the "far side" of that process; opposite the starting and ending point!
So what Beebe's concept of the shadow really is, is a glimpse into these suppressed orientations of both the functions and the complexes that employ them.

The "hero" degrades into an "opposing personalityinterpreting situations through the dominant function in its suppressed opposite orientation. (This is one that Beebe named himself. In Jung's conception, it was just a "negative hero"). Since we're now tapping [further] into what has been rejected from the consciousness by the ego, this, (along with the next three) will often come out in a negative fashion. Yet this one does also back up and fill in the blind spots of the hero. (It is also said to often be the opposite gender, like the anima). 

The "parent" splits off a "critical" version of itself interpreting situations through the auxiliary function in the opposite orientation. Beebe matched this to Jung's "witch" and "senex" (old man) archetypes (for females and males, respectively). Its good side is that it can provide profound wisdom. (A more accurate female archetype might be "The Crone", which carries the intended "formerly respected, now negated" sense like the Senex, but without the "magical" connotation of the "Witch", which is not really what the archetype is about). 

The negative aspect of the "child" receives its interpretations of situations through the opposite orientation of the tertiary and becomes a bratty "bad child", associated with Jung's "trickster" archetype. It rebels and creates double binds for self and especially others, and its good side is comedic relief. 

The anima or "soul" is shadowed by a "demon" which interprets situations through the opposite orientation of the inferior. (This is basically a "negative anima", and it appears a "double negative" principle leads to it being the same gender as the person). Since that was already the most suppressed area, then its shadow manifests in a particularly destructive fashion. It can also become an "angel" or "transformer" in bad situations. 

The resulting order, it must be stressed, is not to be assumed to be strength. And even though we have used "shadow" as the group of bottom four, even that is not a hard division. According to Mark Hunziker and Leona Haas Building Blocks of Personality Type (Unite Business Press, a division of Telos, 2006):


Actually, the shadow encompasses all processes that are primarily unconscious in an individual. Which processes these are will depend on that person's type development and can even include all eight in a very young child. Note also, that the normal hierarchy of preference for processes five through eight has not yet been empirically established, and in practice is likely to vary from person to person. Beebe cautions us not to assume too much on the basis of his numbering, which in many ways is simply for convenience in identifying the various positions. He simply puts it forth as a tool that he has found useful and informative and which at least for the first four functions seems to reflect the order of conscious cultivation of the functions that he has observed. The numbers for the shadow functions are identified merely to mirror the ordering of the first four.
(Glossary: "Shadow", p. 215, emphasis added)


This theory isn't really describing the functions being "used". It's showing the complexes when they're influencing one's behavior.

In actuality, rather than the archetypes constraining the functions, the functions constrain the complexes. That is, when a complex is activated, the behaviors will reflect the function associated with it. When the complex is invoked, the feelings will reach us by way of the associated function; and especially the aspects of it that we don't usually allow into consciousness, or something that we associate with it that strikes us as fitting the archetype. (oppositional or adversarial, cranky or witchy, deceptive or mischievous, or evil and inhuman. It could also hold for the inferior and other primary ones as well).


As an example of a more positive side of the shadows, Beebe mentions an INTP husband of an ENFP interviewer, whose dominant function is her Trickster. The "humorous" positive side of this archetype gives us "a certain ability to cope" that "allows you to get through the jungle of human relations". For her, the function conveyed "a sense of humor about introverted people and understood how to get along with them". ("Typology in the Development of Integrity")

The different tandems also carry over into the shadow. All four complexes tend to be very negative towards both self and others, but the opposing personality and demon, as the shadow of the spine, will be more connected with the self (ego). The witch/senex and trickster, as the arm will be more about "tying down" others to get them off our backs. Hence, you will see the "Oppositional" process described in Linda Berens' books (the Understanding Yourself and Others series and Dynamics of Personality Type; Telos Publications) as being "stubborn" about things, while the "critical parent" is more sharply "critical", and described elsewhere in terms of "low blows" and "looks that stop you dead in your tracks". One is primarily serving the ego it is shadowing, while the other is focused on dealing with the other person.

There also are simply the consecutive pairs, which in Socionics, are called "blocks". 
The dominant and auxiliary, will be more developed and mature, and the tertiary and inferior (when they develop, in coming years) will be less developed and immature, from being initially suppressed and thus lower on the acceptance order from the first two. This will set the stage for the archetypal roles or complexes mapped to the functions. 

Also, from what I have seen, the blocks will also parallel. The opposing and witch will convey the confidence of the hero and parent in a very aggressive way. The trickster and demon, while not really "vulnerable" themselves like the child and anima, nevertheless will compensate for the vulnerability of those complexes, and thus come out very reactively. We are still vulnerable in situations that call for the 7th and 8th functions. Like for me, certain physical acts such as walking elevated tracks. In that case, the Trickster tries to protect me from the potential danger (picked up by the preferred extraverted iNtuition) by making me feel double-bound from moving one way or the other. The gaps look bigger and impassable without tripping, any way I look. Consciously; I know I can get across, but unconsciously, there is something preventing me. So this protection often comes at a price, as it is evident here.
The truly "vulnerable" aspect of the archetype in this case is what can be called "the fool".
Also, it seems the demon splits into an equally vulnerable, totally pathetic "bad-guy/loser" image we fear becoming if we don't fight the demon without, while projecting the truly powerful evil image onto our opponents).

The Trickster and Demon function influenced decisions particularly are said to end up being regretted because they usually erupt in such a rash manner from being the most suppressed, and in the more vulnerable areas. 

So now, we can make generic terms for the eight archetypes. They can be reduced down to three variables which should give a more concise idea of what they are about:

positive (primary) vs negative (shadow)
confident (top two of four functions) vs vulnerable (bottom two)
ego-focused (spine) vs others-focused (arm)

hero: positive, confident, ego-focused
parent: positive, confident, others-focused
child: positive, vulnerable, others-focused
anima: positive, vulnerable, ego-focused
opposing: negative, confident, ego-focused
witch/senex: negative, confident, others-focused
trickster: negative, vulnerable (compensatory), others-focused
demon: negative, vulnerable (compensatory), ego-focused

I also believe there is a sort of "mirroring" dynamic in the shadows, where even though the opposing and witch shadow the confidence of the hero and parent, it also doesreflect in a way, the vulnerability of the child and anima. This is masked by the aggressiveness of them, and can be evidenced in descriptions of the opposing as "avoidant". Hence, Beebe has been cited ("A Closer Look at the Auxiliary Function" lecture, 2008, APT, Sacramento, CA) as saying that intimidating the child will trigger both the witch and trickster. The trickster is the shadow of the child, but the witch is sort of a larger reflection of the child. (Just like, as was pointed out, the child is a reflection of the parent).
In fact, in classic Jungian theory, the Senex was the shadow of the Puer, rather than the Good Parent. (Many pairs of comedians or characters reflect a Puer/Senex duo, with one being silly and simpleminded, and the other, grumpy and serious). Hence, the good child ends up compensated by both the critical parent, and bad child. This is also what I believe explains the opposing personality being opposite gender, like the anima/animus. It is a negative compensatory reflection of it.
Likewise, the trickster and demon shadow the vulnerable child and anima, yet reflect (in a negative way) the strength of the hero and parent. Think of the word "trickster", as well as a "devil" who often "appears as an angel of light". They tend to appear innocent, yet end up as the most dangerous. Just like there was classically a Puer/Senex duo, then the similar contrast to the good Parent would be the Jester; the polar opposite of the king or authority figure who is threatened by anything that isn't conventional. This would represent a pairing of Parent/Trickster in certain forms.


(This mirroring concept will be expanded a bit, further down).

Here, in a nutshell, is an example of the degradation of all four "primary functions and archetypes, into all four shadows:

Jung had defined the concepts of "abstracting" and "empathy" in terms, respectively, of introversion and extraversion (rather than intuition and Feeling, as they came to be used). To "abstract" is to devalue the object and strip it of all irrelevant elements, and to empathize is the essentially merge the subject with the object, trusting the object. Basically, "subtracting" and "adding", respectively.

So for shadow degradation, it then makes sense that if I prefer to devalue the object in favor of subjective content in technical relationships (the dominant ego perspective), and then tend to trust the object with humane relationships, and this is a vulnerable, shaky area (inferior); then if I constantly get "burned" there, I'll eventually withdraw the value from the object and place it back into the subjective content, in which I then strip it of its association with irrelevant elements (which don't make sense to the subjective content). The issue is still one of humane relationships, so it's not simply the dominant perspective "mixing" with the inferior, as some four-process theorists would argue.

This is a negative, reactive response that is not consciously controlled, and using a humane perspective I normally dissociate from the subjective content.
Likewise, when it comes time to take action through technical means, I'll merge with the object in a negative way to support ego's goals (and thus oppose the threat).
This covers the spine.

As for the arm, the child seeks relief (in my case, nostalgia about the past) through Si, in which I devalue the tangible object in experience, and instead save the most relevant images. But the preferred perspective this is filtered through is still Ne, which merges with the conceptual object and says things should be open, and unique.
If something conventional and closed is forced on me, that will make me feel like an oppressed child. So then, how will the person or institution responsible for this come across? As a negative, limiting parent, and one who forces a particular negative pattern, in which the object is now devalued, and a particular relevant element is locked in on, and thus not open and flexible. Thus, the projection of the Senex through the perspective of Ni. And then, how does this child deal with this perceived bad parent? Try to get him off my back through trickery, merging with the environment of emergent tangible data; being "bad" myself through the Trickster with Se (which is also simultaneously projected onto the other person in the form of a menacing bully).

 

The understanding of the complexes starts with the ego, and its boundaries; both external ones (against all that is not self), and internal (between the conscious and unconscious), in addition to the ego's defenses. Particularly against painful emotions that can be damaging to us. When these defenses are challenged, then the ego's integrity is at stake.

The way this seems to work is that the Self tries to bring the shadow perspectives into consciousness, and the ego resists this, trying to keep them out of consciousness when they go against the ego's goals. When they do come into consciousness against the ego's wishes, it will often take the form of an erratic reaction, often responding in kind through the perspective of the function, or behaviors associated with it. This is what would be commonly misconstrued as "uses of shadow functions". 
So from what I have been able to gather, the specific complexes are basically "constellated" in response to the following threats to the ego:

The Opposing Personality is a reaction towards the ego and especially its heroic dominant perspective and persona being opposed or obstructed. Obstruction might also be when ego's connection with the anima is obstructed.

The Senex/Witch is the reaction against negation and vulnerability. Negation would seem to be a challenge to the parental authority of the auxiliary perspective, and vulnerability would be from threats to the child. Hence, intimidating the child said to trigger both the witch and trickster (We can notice so far, the "mirroring" dynamic that has been mentioned).

The Trickster is a reaction against being controlled or put upon. (Child feels burdened, parent feels powerless).

The Demon is basically a reaction against a threat against the ego's integrity structure. The extreme case of this would be "ego death": the removal of its boundaries. So, in lesser cases of stress, it might erupt when the ego feels totally helpless, especially when the anima is under strong attack. Where the anima represents our connection to "life", the Demon reprsents "death".

Again, you can see in this how the spines deal more with the ego itself, while the arms are about others.

The Demon and Trickster are also said to specifically appear at times when there is danger of ego disintegration. This is when the ego's boundaries (mainly, in this case, its defenses) are totally breached. We would then be left defenseless against damaging emotional content. So the unconscious area of our personality dispatches these last stands to protect the ego's integrity. This might occur in the aftermath of trauma, especially when trying to get back to normal, where demonic figures appear in dreams threatening to destroy you in some way, or the the person's ego might confuse itself to bind him from taking action that might expose him to more trauma.

From here, there is a debate as to whether these complexes surface only in those kinds of severe instances, or in everyday situations. 
The way they were originally conceived is more the former. Beebe, of course, introduced the latter view. 
For now, I believe it is a combination of both. You could say the everyday constellations of the complexes are miniscule versions, for when the ego's boundaries feel threatened in more miniscule, everyday ways, especially by emotional pain.
The former view does acknowledge that more positive versions of the two complexes appear later in life, to help us grow towards individuation. The Trickster, for instance, then floods consciousness with double-binds to force the ego to grow beyond its normal perspectives. This might be a bit closer to what Beebe's theory is trying to convey.

It is true, that the Trickster and Demon, as discussed by Donald Kalsched were originally more about trauma. I have also seen a notion that the whole shadow (which originally to Jung was one single archetype) was more likely what we know as the Opposing Personality. Sort of like four-process theory, where the inferior is considered the whole shadow, this would be basically a five-process theory.

I found this review of one of Kalsched's books by Beebe where he provides a bit of rationale for having four shadow complexes rather than them being "blurred into a master mythologem like Jung's dark Mercurius, who too easily becomes a metaphor for the whole shadow in all its shape-shifting aspects": Book Review: The Inner World Of Trauma: Archetypal Defenses of the Personal Spirit by Donald Kalsched)

Seeing now that the original concepts were about trauma made me have to consider if the Trickster and Demon were necessarily the best archetypes to assign to the negative child and negative anima roles. (There were actually hundreds of archetypes to choose from. The ones we discuss are just those Beebe chose to represent the ego's cognitive dynamics. There are actually several different archetypes bundled in these "roles" as it is).
Still, for now, apparently, it seems there are miniscule versions of the energies that hail from this space for lesser threats, that are nevertheless seen as grave to the ego's position. These "traumatic" occasions would be special instances of the Trickster and Demon, where the Self now tries to keep damaging information out of consciousness, despite whatever the ego is trying to do with it.

Hence, both the 7th and 8th functions as brain hemisphere lateral alternatives or "mirrors" of the dominant and aux, as well as shadows of the tertiary and inferior. Also, the 5th and 6th functions both mirroring the same-hemisphere tertiary and inferior, as well as shadowing the dominant and auxiliary.

Examples of the shadows in my experience

 

What the complexes are all about is projectionThe complexes (especially the shadows) are what we project onto others, and the goal of ego-development is to "own" them, and see them as apart of ourselves. 
Hence, the larger self, which encompasses both the ego consciousness, and the personal and collective unconscious is said to constantly be trying to "get our attention" through means such as conflicts and reactions, as well as dreams. 
This is because the ego thinks it's the center of the psyche, when the larger Self really is.

When we project the encompassing complexes onto people, they seem to fit those roles, likely through the lens of the function-attitude in that position in some way, and we react often antagonistically in kind through that function. Or, they might genuinely be fitting the role in their own behavior. Projection can be "positive" as well, though that can still ultimately become a negative thing. The anima projection on a loved one is an example (and there is a danger of becoming over possessive, or the feelings seeming to go away when the sense of "otherness" about the person wears off), and we also are projecting onto people when we are jealous of them, thinking they have something we don't.

To own the complex instead of projecting it at others, we must see ourselves as playing those roles; our own worst enemies. 
This is hard, because these parts of us are what we have shut out of our consciousness

When we withdraw the complex, we then become more receptive to interpretations of situations through the function that has become embedded in the complex's archetype. We can then experience the positive side of the perspective more. 

This is what has somewhat misguidedly become shorthanded as "developing the functions". That again assumes the functions are "skills" we "use". But you're not really developing functions; you're expanding consciousness and recovering (integrating) suppressed perspectives, as that again is what the function attitudes are. 
The hypothetical goal is called "individuation". While this would yield a more balanced perspective in living, it is really not simply being "strong" in "all eight functions".

Really, self-growth is what all of this stuff is really, ultimately all about!

Naturally, what happens in midlife, is that when the ego grows a bit bored of seeing life through its lifelong perspectives (seeing they haven't really solved the pains of life), it weakens its defenses, and the suppressed perspectives will be able to come into consciousness more. For instance, the Trickster will be "flooding consciousness with paradoxes that have no solution within the framework the ego has established". (Lenore Thomson, Personality Pathways). The ego can either continue trying to resist, or instead become more open to them. (Hence, it's not a matter of the functions automatically "developing" like the first four did). This is what is supposed to lead towards "individuation".

In short, the four basic positions can be summed up as
1, 5 ego's identity and advancement
2, 6 ego's authority over others
3, 7 ego's submission or deference
4, 8 ego's connection to life, aspirations

So it seems, the way the complexes (the more negative ones, mainly) are constellated, is that 
1) we feel {inferior, obstructed, negated, double bound, ego threatened} 
2) we then project this onto others
3) we then respond in kind

So here now are the pertinent complexes.
The thing to remember, is that anyone can do any of these things using the functional perspectives, but for the type with that function connected to that archetype, there will be a heightened emotional investment in the action or reaction, as the function translates the emotional responses involving the complex into cognitive information.

HERO (dominant)

Since this is the ego's main standpoint, we probably don't often project it at others. We "own" it right off the bat. It is "us", at least in our conscious self-image.
I imagine it's when we're really young, and we look up to those who manifest the perspective that will become dominant in our own consciousness. We then seek to be like them and emulate them; becoming better and better at the process as we go on. We eventually master it, and thus are able to withdraw the projection; seeing ourselves as the "hero" in this area.

As "operating charters", the emotionally positive sense of heroically solving a problem would best be captured by the rational mind through the following perspectives:

Se (ESxP): The environment must be scanned for tangible experiences
Si (ISxJ): Life must be familiar to my storehouse of data
Ne (ENxP): The environment must be inferred for alternative possibilities
Ni (INxJ): Life must have an underlying significance inferred by me
Te (ExTJ): The environment must be efficiently organized
Ti (IxTP): Life must make technical sense to me
Fe (ExFJ): The environment must be socially friendly
Fi (IxFP): Life must be humanely congruent to me

GOOD PARENT (auxiliary)

You would think we likewise don't project this much, since we see it as just as integral to our type as the dominant. But since (according to Lenore) we often jump straight to the tertiary defense, we apparently do not always completely own the complex. 
When we do, we reportedly gain a strong motivation to teach and mentor others, and sometimes going to the opposite extreme of wjhat's been called "preaching the auxiliary". The person now rigorously "parents" others with their perspective, including their method of owning the complex.

I imagine projecting the parent would mean you would see others as parent figures you want to help you with the perspective of the function in that position. Running to the tertiary, we're playing a role of "child" (that function's archetypal shell) anyway. Again, when we mature in the function, we then take a more "parental" role, and would then withdraw the projection.

But being in a heavy SJ environment, I have probably not had many people I could project this onto, so I believe I owned it pretty early, making my Ne very strong (as reflected by the cognitive process test), to the point of seeming to be possibly my dominant.

The emotionally positive sense of authoritatively supporting others is best captured by the rational mind through:
Se (ISxP): Aiding others in tangible experiences
Si (ESxJ): Teaching others according to what's familiar
Ne (INxP): Showing others alternative possibilities
Ni (ENxJ): Showing others underlying significance of things
Te (IxTJ): Directing others to efficiently organize the environment
Ti (ExTP): Teaching others according to logically truth
Fe (IxFJ): Instructing others on group ethics or values
Fi (ExFP): Teaching others by one's own personal relation to situations

PUER/PUELLA ("eternal child", tertiary)

Since this would be the function our egos run to to maintain the dominant attitude, we probably don't project this associated complex onto others. The ego naturally owns it quickly. (Projection would be seeing others as "children" in some way). 

The tertiary thus "inflates" itself, aiming to appear full of "wisdom and maturity" and be equal to the dominant or auxiliary of others. Yet then it deflates itself, and I (for instance) become like a child wanting to be taken and led into the innocent past through nostalgic interests. It also tends to "tell us what we want to hear" (for me, relying on what I know to be factually true).

Actually, all conscious complexes tend to inflate themselves. It's actually the ego that is doing the inflating, as it seeks to be the center of the psyche (in place of the Self). So since the tertiary is the ego's first line of defense of the dominant perspective, it seems to be the one that is seen "inflating" the most.

The emotionally positive sense of child-like relief is best captured by the rational mind through:
Se (ENxJ): Looking to be led by others in tangible experiences
Si (INxP): Nostalgic enjoyment of memories, especially childhood
Ne (ESxJ): childlike exploring of alternatives, new possibilities
Ni (ISxP): childlike exploring of underlying significances
Te (ExFP): Finding relief in organizing the environment
Ti (IxFJ): Childlike exploration of logical frameworks
Fe (ExTP): childlike when connecting with others
Fi (IxTJ): Find relief through internal harmony; personally relating to situations represents innocence

Now, we enter the realm of the less conscious complexes; the ones that do get heavily projected onto others, and need to be owned.

When we project the encompassing complexes onto people, they seem to fit those roles, generally involving the function-attitude in that position in some way, and we react oppositionally in kind with that function. Or, they might genuinely be fitting the role in their own behavior. 
To own the complex instead of projecting it at others, we must see ourselves as playing those roles; our own worst enemies. 
This is hard, because these parts of us are what we have shut out of our consciousness


ANIMA (inferior, aspirational)
What it is about, and which function it encases:

The collecting place of our sense of "otherness", including life, libido and and instinctual energies. The word means "soul". Shaped largely by the parent of the opposite sex, projected onto those we fall in love with, and encases the inferior function.

We likely feel inferior in both the internal or external orientation, and the functional perspective associated with the inferior.

Possible drawbacks from the emotionally freighted sense of connecting with life:

ISxJ's might feel inferior in new possibilities.
INxJ's might feel inferior with current tangible experience.
IxTP's might feel inferior in humane (personal) matters (including one's standing in social groups).
IxFP's might feel inferior in technical (impersonal) matters, such as regarding logical organization. 
ESxP's might feel inferior (spaced out) by conceptual frameworks such as archetypes and symbolism.
ENxP's might feel inferior when it comes to a storehouse of tangible acts, such as learned order
ExTJ's might feel inferior on a humane level, including personal integrity.
ExFJ's might feel inferior on a technical level, such as regarding logical understanding.

How we project it onto others:

ISxJ's Cling to dominant perspective. Criticize NP's as irresponsible regarding learned knowledge
INxJ's Cling to dominant perspective. Criticize SP's as reckless
IxTP's Appear insensitive or unfeeling and openly complain about FJ types. 
IxFP's Criticize other's organization
ESxP's Criticize this stuff as irrelevant.
ENxP's Dismissed learned methods as irrelevant
ExTJ's Become defensive and develop a martyrdom complex where it's everyone else's ethics that are bad.
ExFJ's Criticize others as illogical.

In each case, there's a deep down inside longing for what they are brushing off, that they might realize if they look for it. Espsecially in mid-life, when individuation takes us inward.

We (at least unconsciously) feel we would be best completed in the orientation by someone by our side who somehow fulfills the perspective. (Since this is a projection onto the person, they are not necessarily a type that prefers the function).

I imagine this might come out in the emotional images that surface when we think of a beautiful romantic day:

ISxJ's exploring new possibilities, to "create new memories".
INxJ's enjoying rigorous tangible experience together, and extracting meaning from it.
IxTP's strolling through a beautiful setting involving an atmosphere colored by other people; admiring technical things.
IxFP's working side by side at some sort of logical organization with a humanitarian purpose. 
ESxP's someone to get lost with in a world of conceptual frameworks such as archetypes and symbolism, and then realizing their dreams.
ENxP's enjoying nostalgia together, and exploring them as exciting possibilities
ExTJ's someone who gives them a sense of personal integrity, giving them further incentive for their logical ordering.
ExFJ's exoploring technical wonders, and feeling connected through this.

Yet in real life, no one can ever fulfill this ideal companion, so we tend to just find fault with people who use the opposite perspective.

Since in the typical Beebe order where the eight are evenly divided four and four, the inferior usually falls on the "ego-syntonic" side, where the next four are "ego-dystonic" and negative. So Berens includes it with the first three as generally positive, having a negative side, rather than generally negative, having positive side. 
So the "negative" side of this "aspirational" function she calls "projective"; and often the first aspect of it experienced. We "project our fears, shoulds and negativities onto others". What happens, is that it basically shapes ideals we feel inferior in, which are then projected outward at others by thinking of them as what they "should" do.

In reality, it is all the shadows or unconscious complexes that get projected onto others. Of course, this harmonized with standard four-process theory, where the inferior IS considered to be the whole "shadow". 

So that is another aspect of the inferior projection besides just the opposite gender stuff.

How to own it:
We see others as completing us (i.e. we're inferior), but we need to see this completeness in ourselves. We need to become better at what we feel inferior at ourselves, rather than placing demands on others.
In the deeper Jungian concept, there is also a whole sense of "libido" or "life-giving energy" we tend to project onto the opposite sex (especially men projecting onto women). When we come to see this in ourselves, we will withdraw the projections, and also again gain more access to the unconscious. The anima/animus then becomes a "sage", and ultimately, an inner source of wisdom. There are two links on the anima below (Donald Kalsched, Paul Watsky) which will provide more information on this.

What is trying to be brought into consciousness is the need to own the shadow; what is "not I", the ego-dystonic; and a good place to start is with the [yet ego-syntonic] perspective of the opposite function and orientation together.

Now, to "the shadow", proper.
"The Shadow" was originally (to Jung) a single archetype that gets projected onto our enemies. In this model, it is of course divided into four distinct roles, shadowing the primary archetypes. (In the older model, it is just the inferior itself. So in this model, the inferior or anima/animus is often called "the bridge" to the unconscious).

OPPOSING PERSONALITY COMPLEX
What it is about, and which functional perspective it encases:

We feel negative emotions of our dominant perspective being obstructed by things in the opposite orientation. Then, we become stubborn about them. The complex then defends the dominant perspective in that opposite orientation. 

ISxJ's Feel obstructed in or become stubborn about tangible reality.
INxJ's Feel obstructed in or become stubborn about emergent meanings and possibilities
IxTP's Feel obstructed in or become stubborn about the way things are organized
IxFP's Feel obstructed in or become stubborn about group standards
ESxP's Feel obstructed in or become stubborn about their perceptions of how things once were
ENxP's Feel obstructed in or become stubborn about their perceptions of how the future will be
ExTJ's Feel obstructed in or become stubborn about models and principles and robotically following them
ExFJ's Feel obstructed in or become stubborn about personal values

How we project it onto others:

The subconscious attitude generally is: "you're obstructing me, so I'll oppose you". [I'm so immersed into my dominant orientation and oppose the opposite one, and project the opposition onto you]

ISxJ's Think that living in the moment is irresponsible. (However, some who do it are sexy).
INxJ's Probably think that multiple possibilities are absurd. The patterns point to one right conclusion.
IxTP's Think that agreed upon logical rules are stupid and a waste of time. Spunky Te types might be sexy
IxFP's Think that agreed upon ethics do not get to the real needs of people; affect them negatively, etc.
ESxP's Memorized rules and such are stupid and limiting of freedom.
ENxP's Taking only one possibility is stupid and limiting.
ExTJ's Breaking things down into trivial detail is stupid, inefficient and a waste of time
ExFJ's Tailoring everything to individual personal needs is too much trouble

How to own it:

We're making others into "opposing personalities" ("negative heroes" or "villains"), but we're really our own villain.

What is trying to be brought into consciousness: the need for the rejected orientation.

Ji/Pe types have chosen P and suppressed J. And Je/Pi types have chosen J and suppressed P. Hence, P's might not really make many decisions externally, but instead just try to get by under other people's order, with which we can easily find fault, but not offer much of a better solution ourselves. 

If we were to exercise (own) more of a J attitude (as represented by our dominant function's opposite orientation), we would be more proactive in the outer world and thus able to attain better positions of control and not feel so at the mercy of others. We would then be able to withdraw some of the vilification or criticism we direct at those in power. 
Likewise, if J's would likewise take on more of a [suppressed] P attitude, they would withdraw a lot of their blame on others for not being organized enough.

This complex is also usually contrasexual, like the anima/animus. It seems to be what we "lust" after in the opposite sex. While the anima is "madonna" or the "nice guy" we "love" in the opposite sex, this complex is the "whore" or "bad boy". (My own observation). This will especially be prominent in men who have not developed their anima to the stage where they dissociate it from their mother.


WITCH/SENEX ("critical parent")
What it is about, and which functional perspective it encases:

We feel negative emotions connected to extreme crankiness, as like an authoritarian figure whose position is negated, and then become "critical and disgruntled" (Berens) about the associated perception or judgment perspective. "Parent" others negatively in a limiting, authoritarian fashion.

ISxP's Feel negated in or become disgruntled about rememberance of facts. 
INxP's Feel negated in or become disgruntled about patterns and perceived significance of events (and what they appear to lead to). 
IxTJ's Feel negated in or become disgruntled about variable logical principles 
IxFJ's Feel negated in or become disgruntled about personal ethics 
ESxJ's Feel negated in or become disgruntled about current sensory experience (what things look like, etc). 
ENxJ's Feel negated in or become disgruntled about alternative possibilities. 
ExFP's Feel negated in or become disgruntled about group values
ExTP's Feel negated in or become disgruntled about set logical order

How we project it onto others; how it might play in their subconscious mind:

ISxP's Avoid past rememberances, except to blame, and will make them critical if others dwell too much
I'M the authority on factual data, and you have dwelled too much on the past and should move on [I feel bad about the past, and project it onto you]

INxP's Interpret everything in terms of a "big picture" in which the worst will happen, and blame those around them: 
I'M the authority on concepts and inferences. What you're doing fits (implies, infers, etc.) a negative pattern I see, and I'm going to stand against it. [I feel the patterns are against me, and project it onto you].

IxTJ's Will often angrily hit others with logical "truth" or principles:
I'M the authority on logical order. You are being totally illogical! [I subconsciously know my logic is not very deep with my external focus, and I project this onto you]

IxFJ's Can angrily hit others with personal or universal ethical "truth":
I'M the authority on ethics! Your behavior shows a lack of personal integrity. [I feel I'm not living up to the personal (internal) side of ethics with my external focus, and I project it onto you].

ESxJ's Very critical about the way things look, which they easily spot to find fault with (I call them "hawks")
I'M the authority on tangible reality (e.g. how things look). What you're making is ugly. [I feel deficient in this area, and project it onto you].

ENxJ's Might attack people for bombarding them with alternative possibilities and meanings, especially if they do not have any "authority" to do so:
I'M the authority on conceptual ideas. Your ideas are totally ridiculous! [I cannot handle multiple emergent possibilities and project this onto you]

ExTP's Will fight, compete and one-up others over the way things are ordered.
I'M the authority on logical sense. You are being totally illogical! [I subconsciously know my logic is not readily practical to others with my internal focus, and I project this onto you]

ExFP's will authoritatively chastize those perceived as disrupting social harmony (and end up disrupting it themselves), and will reference standards imposed upon themselves:
I'M the authority on ethics. You're displaying bad social behavior [I go against external values when they conflict my internal standard, yet my conscience bothers me about this, and I project it at you].

How to own it:

We see others as shaming, blaming "critical parents", setting limits on us in an authoritarian (Hunziker) fashion (and then react in kind), but we're really our own critical parent, and blaming others for this.

What is trying to be brought into consciousness through this is wisdom neglected in our preferred Parental complex.

TRICKSTER (bad child, clown)
What it is about, and which functional perspective it encases:

Emotions connected with that of a bad child; either dealing with one, playing tricks and binding the ego, or then being one to get back at or rebel against the threat, will often come through the perspective. Where the Puer tells us what we want to hear, the Trickster tells us what we don't want to hear! We feel "bound", and then, in a rebellious fashion, try to turn the tables by using it for deceiving, double-binding, trapping others

ISxP's Might feel 'double-bound' by alternative possibilities
INxP's Might feel 'double-bound' by tangible reality (physical things, etc), and then it seems to become the perfect vehicle to try to turn the tables on others with, or to be silly with. 
IxTJ's Might feel 'double-bound' by social values, and use them to trap others into behaving or conforming
IxFJ's Might feel 'double-bound' by set logical order, and make mistakes trying to implement it themselves
ESxJ's Might feel 'double-bound' by patterns or inferences, and use them to trap others into confirming their worst fears
ENxJ's Might feel 'double-bound' by memorized facts that go against ego, and use them to trap others
ExTP's Might feel 'double-bound' by a focus on personal values, and use them to trap others
ExFP's Might feel 'double-bound' by variable logical principles and use them to trap others or be silly

How we project it onto others; how it might play in their subconscious mind:

ISxP's See people tossing out alternative possibilities and meanings as bad children or clowns:
HA! Got you! You're trying to bind me [I feel lost with emergent inferences and project it onto you] so I'm going to bind you with concepts and possibilities.

INxP's People performing rigorous stunts are clowns; people pointing out tangible reality that goes against the ego seem like "bullies":
HA! Got you! You're trying to bind me [I feel bound by tangible reality and project it onto you], so I'm going to bind you with tangible reality

IxTJ's might criticize others' social behavior to scare them by saying they are bringing rejection on themselves:
HA! Got you! You're trying to bind me with social rules [I feel bound by social rules and project it onto you], so I'l bind you with social etiquette

IxFJ's see people organizing things logically as "bad children":
HA! Got you! You're trying to bind me [I feel confused by externally set technical order and make mistakes with it, and project it onto you] so I'm going to bind you with technical order.

ESxJ's see symbolism and inferences as silly, yet unconsciously use them themselves under stress, in a "bratty" fashion:
HA! Got you! You're trying to bind me [I feel confused or lost with stored conceptual patterns and project it onto you], so I'm going to bind you by proving that you're confirming my worst intuitions.

ENxJ's People who dwell on the past (instead of moving on) are "puerile", and yet they might distort it to get them off their back:
HA! Got you! You're trying to bind me [I feel trapped by stored facts and project it onto you], so I'm going to bind you with stored facts (including making you look crazy for bringing them up; e.g. the past).

ExTP's see opponent's passion in a dispute and try to outdo it themselves in a childish fashion:
HA! Got you! You're trying to bind me [I feel bound by the personal side of situations such as universal values and project it onto you] so I'm going to bind you with ethical values.

ExFP's: All this archetype stuff ("puers trigger witches", etc. logical frameworks) is just excuses for bad behavior (I actually had one say this to me!):
HA! Got you! You're trying to bind me [I feel confused or lost with technical variables and project it onto you] so I'm going to bind you with technical details.

How to own it:

We see others as a bad child or binding us, but we're being a bad child or binding ourselves.

What is trying to be brought into consciousness is the perspective orientation opposite the dominant one our "child" complex runs to. In severe trauma, the Self uses it to try to keep information out of consciousness, and bind a person from taking action that might expose the ego to more damaging content.

DEMONIC PERSONALITY COMPLEX
What it is about, and which functional perspective it encases:

The most suppressed area of consciousness. Also named by various theorists, "Internal Saboteur", "Bad Object" or "anti-libidinal ego". Carries emotions associated with evil, either someone trying to destroy the ego (real or apparently, imagined), or the ego in turn trying to destroy a [perceived] threat. Where the anima represents our connection to "life", the Demon conveys a association with death. Encases the opposite function of the dominant perspective orientation. 

ISxJ's deep conceptual meaning is an area of the unknown and runs totally counter to the concrete structure needed
INxJ's The past is highly irrelevant, and likely haunting
IxTP's the personal factor in situations, or conscience might be a nagging, guilt-provoking issue we wish could go away.
IxFP's Logical analysis totally depersonalizes life
ESxP's Interpretations of current reality are highly irrelevant
ENxP's "may get caught up in a binge of being in the physical moment; excessively seeking stimulation or following the urge to sleep or do nothing" (Berens)
ExTJ's Social harmony might be manipulated for personal goals (and at the expense of real harmony), rather than shaping one's own behavior
ExFJ's Logical order is a necessary evil done in a huff to accomplish goal of social harmony

How we project it onto others; how it might play in their subconscious mind:

ISxJ's see conceptual frameworks as crazy, yet use them under stress in an overblown fashion ("dire predictions with detailed certainty"):
Your abstract dreamworld makes me feel totally lost [so I project this onto you], so I'm going to use negative inferences to make you feel threatened.

INxJ's "When really stressed, they may waste time reviewing the impact of the past."(Berens): 
You're trying to destroy me with my past, [I feel threatened by stored facts (which I see as irrelevant as it is) used against me, and project it onto you], so I'm going to use your past to destroy you!

IxTP's Might become very envious and resentful at people seen as morally self-contented, and want nothing more than to upseat and expose them. They come across as evil hypocrites wearing a "good guy" mask. They then end up coming off as self-righteous themselves in trying to outdo these others. Also, self-destructive in expending time and energy passionately engaging in all-so-"important" personal causes against these objects of envy:
You're trying to destroy my humanity to the core (internal), so I'm going to destroy yours! [I really want to self-destruct from my need for internal logical "sense" and external personal validation being violated, and I project this onto you]

IxFP's Logical analysis is cold and evil, and they'll use it to demolish someone else's analysis:
Your impersonal analysis makes me feel totally depersonalized [and I project this onto you], so I'm going to destroy your logic

ESxP's: emergent conceptualization makes me feel totally lost and you're taking advantage of this:
•[I "over-read 'between the lines'" and project this onto you by "misinterpreting the meaning of someone's actions and attributing negative intentions where there were none" (Berens)], so I'm going to react accordingly.

ENxP's "zero in on isolated details, hastily acting on them in a chaotic disjointed way" (Berens): 
•feels undone by emergent tangible experience not under control of conceptual knowledge, and projects by trying to destroy others with rash impulsive reactions

ExTJ's Others are socially destructive, and are out to get me; I'm doing SO much for others, and not appreciated:
You're trying to destroy me from the inside out (e.g. "my integrity"), so I'm going to destroy your standing on the outside [I really want to self-destruct from my need for my external logical image and internal personal validation being violated, and I project this onto you]

ExFJ's Others' disorder is making me crazy; frenzied rush to clean and fix everything or order the other person:
Your lack of orderliness totally destroys my sense of [humane] harmony [I feel gravely overwhelmed in the logical aspect of external oder, and project it onto you], so I'm going to destroy your mess (or become highly irritable as I clean the area).

How to own it:

We see others as "devils" (destroyers) in these areas, but the destructive evil is really within us!

What is trying to be brought into consciousness is what the ego is fighting most against; the perspective opposite to its dominant function, but in its sacred preferred orientation. In severe trauma, the Self uses it to try to keep information out of consciousness to protect the ego from more damaging content; and demonic figures might appear in dreams threatening the ego with death if the ego's already fragile boundaries are being breached.

Owning this complex might make our ego feel it is in danger of becoming nonexistent, or transformed into the weak, pathetic, helpless image I mentioned earlier, that we despise as totally allowing the evil that opposed the ego to prevail. Think "Ichabod: the glory has departed". If the anima is the soul, then this represents the ego, rather than united with the soul, instead sapped of all life.
However, this figure, like the others, is really the ego's own projection. In actuality, it is really the "daimon"; the word "demon" is derived from, but without the necessarily evil connotation "demon" has taken on. The word means "replete with knowledge", "divine power," "fate" or "god." In Greek mythology, it included deified heroes. They were considered intermediary spirits between men and the gods.

Man was called not only to survive and reproduce, but to love and help others along the way. This includes showing grace and forgiveness, as we ourselves need. This would represent, what in Christian terminology is called "partaking of the Cross". Hence, why that poor pathetic archetype looks the way he does, and is even associated with evil. He has borne the entire shadow of the world! And our ego resists becoming this, in favor of its own goals, and seeking its own way. The unpreferred perspectives then often make the ego feel threatened. Particularly the inferior function when "infiltrating" the dominant orientation.
If we spend all our energy maintaining the ego's wishes and protesting our pains and disappointments, we eventually become the very evil we see in the world (which we are projecting on them as it is), and representing the "dark side" of life we would associate with "demons". If we accept more of a "suffering servant" mantle, then we become like "daimons" or "angels", being messengers of God, and true heroes; even if not recognized by the world.

 

 

Here's another perspective for understanding the shadows in terms of the primary functions they are shadowing.

When Se is the shadow degradation; the person goes from a primary perspective of subtracting from tangible data what is irrelevant or untrusted, and now adds or interjects himself into the emergent experience in a (usually) more negative fashion.

When Se is in Opposing Personality role, the ego function is Si, which internalizes tangible experience through memory. When this is challenged, the focus is shifted to current, emergent reality to backup past knowledge. (After all, the past once was present, and is to be learned from in order to know what to expect in the present).

In a similar fashion, when Se is in witch/senex role, Si is the function the ego uses to parent others. When the 'parental' advice based on past knowledge is rejected, then the parent becomes critical and uses current reality to place blame and find fault.

When Se is trickster, then Si is puer, and internalized tangible experience is what the ego childishly falls back on to maintain its introverted attitude. If this is challenged, the ego will use current tangible reality to get others off his back by pointing at others ("you do it too" defense {triggered when the ego is intimidated through the puer by memory-based fear of punishment}). "wanting to have its own way": wanting to see things for myself, and having concrete evidence for things such as spirituality. 

Se as demon: The person aspires to being more attentive to internal sensations. External sensations may undermine this.

When Si is the shadow degradation; the person goes from a primary perspective of adding or interjecting himself into the emergent experience to subtracting from the tangible data what is irrelevant, in a (usually) more negative fashion.

Si as Opposing Personality: The person is focused primarily on the present (emergent tangible data). The past (stored tangible data) is used as a reference to how it links to the present, which they will stubbornly cling to.

Si as witch/senex: the person parents others by noticing current tangible data. If this is ignored, they will turn to stored tangible data to criticize things by.

Si as trickster: Sensory pleasure is a source of childlike relief. If this is threatened, they will reference memorized experiences to get the person off their back.

Si as demon: the person, immersed in the world of Ni, ultimately wants some connection to the tangible world, usually the present. Under stress, they may turn from present to past reality.

When Ne is the shadow degradation; the person goes from a primary perspective of subtracting from conceptual data what is irrelevant or untrusted, and now adds or interjects himself into the emergent data in a (usually) more negative fashion. He'll veer away from likely outcomes according to internalized conceptual patterns, and merge with the objects themselves, using their open, multiple meanings or possibilities to toss out at others, perhaps sarcastically.

Ne as Opposing Personality: The person usually has "knowings" based on internal abstract perceptions. If this is challenged, they will turn towards external stimuli to back up their perception.

Ne as witch/senex: The person parents with foresight and following their visions. If this is spurned, they will turn to an external sense of possibilities to criticize with.

Ne as trickster: The person finds relief in using their imagination to perceive the future. If this is intimidated, they would try to tie others down with multiple external interpretations.

Ne as demon: They aspire to having a sense of the future. When stressed, it can turn into messed up interpretations.

When Ni is the shadow degradation; the person goes from a primary perspective of adding or interjecting himself into the emergent possibilities to subtracting from the conceptual data what is irrelevant, in a (usually) more negative fashion. They now "lock on" to a negative outcome extracted from all other possibilities!

Ni as Opposing backs up Ne as hero. The ego cherishes multiple opportunities of external obects being open. If they are shut out, then the person will "lock on" to an internal negative perception of what will happen.

Ni as senex/witch uses its perceptions to criticize or cast blame, with a cynical outlook on the future. They normally "parent" others with external-based multiple possibilities, but when these seem to be shut out by circumstances (or if they cannot obtain the meaning behind something), they will generate a specific perception internally based on patterns seen (archetypal "models" of situations), and 'parent' others in a negative fashion with this.

Ni as trickster shadows Ne as child. Imaginativeness using multiple possibilities is a playful, childlike endeavor. If this is intimidated, the person will then try to bind the other person with negative premonitions of what will happen. They may act as if it is inevitable or as good as having occurred already, and become very childish.

Ni as demon: shadows Ne as anima. The person really has a typical aversion to too much abstraction (favoring internal concrete remembrance), but does aspire to seeing the meanings behind things. Under stress, this will become very negative forecasting "with detailed certainty" (Berens).

When Te is the shadow degradation; the person goes from a primary perspective of subtracting from technical data what is irrelevant, and now adds or interjects himself into the logical aspects of the object in a (usually) more negative fashion. You try to promote your frameworks as the most efficient, and in some way get them implemented.

Te as Opposing Personality will back up the ego's internal technical model of how things should be, and thus when the principles are violated, it will be "stubborn" about how things are technically organized.

Te as witch/Senex will back up parental Ti which seeks to instruct others with its models. So when people do not follow the technical principles, it will turn to the external technical order of things to criticize and find fault.

Te as trickster will shadow the Child, which delights in technical models and frameworks. If someone intimidates this, it will turn to external technical principles to strip down the offender.

Te as demon: Very Feeling (humane focus) driven person, and while they have an aspiration to Ti, when things do not make sense, they will overcompensate with a focus on external technical efficiency and virulently trying to establish order.

When Ti is the shadow degradation; the person goes from a primary perspective of adding or interjecting himself into the technical content to subtracting from it what is irrelevant, in a (usually) more negative fashion. He now (temporarily) steps aside from the means to the end of implementing efficiency, to referencing the inherent "universal" principles, explaining why this is the way it should be, or why others should understand or act accordingly.

Ti as Opposing Personality: The person's hero is extraverted Thinking, which orders the world for technical efficiency. When this is challenged, they will turn inward to universal technical principles to stubbornly support their external focus.

Ti as witch/senex: The person parents others with rules of external technical efficiency. When this is not adhered to, then they begin parenting critically with the universal technical frameworks and principles of the world that support the external rules.

Ti as trickster: External technical efficiency is looked up to with childlike innocence. The person will turn to the underlying technical principles behind it as a last resort if intimidated. Otherwise, it is seen as puerile detail.

Ti as demon: The person has a deep down desire to be organized and systematic. If this is intimidated with too much technical detail, they then seek to rip to shreds the models and frameworks, proving them inconsistent; destroying the offending logic from the inside out.

When Fe is the shadow degradation; the person goes from a primary perspective of subtracting from humane content what is irrelevant, and now adds or interjects himself into the external interpersonal situation in a (usually) more negative fashion.

Fe as Opposing Personality: The person is driven by personal and universal humane values. If these are challenged, they will appeal to external set values to defend the ego.

Fe as critical parent is supporting Fi as good parent. ExFP's parent others with personal or universal humane values. If a group or people in a group are violating these, then the person will begin using external set values to parent the people in a critical fashion (including blaming).

Fe as trickster: The person finds relief through universal/personal humane values. External set values are appealed to (often in an overgeneralized fashion) when motivating someone to do what's important, particularly if the person's behavior is affecting them in some way.

Fe as demon: The person's directive heroic external logic is ultimately driven by a deep sense of what's important (humane variables they personally relate to). If this is challenged (especially by accusing them of bad behavior), they turn on the offenders to try to destroy their sense of group values, or use external set values to put others down, or claim to be unfairly treated.

When Fi is the shadow degradation; the person goes from a primary perspective of adding or interjecting himself into the interpersonal environment to subtracting from the external values what is irrelevant, in a (usually) more negative fashion. They now retreat to their own personal values (as a defense), which they normally adapt to accomodate others.

Fi as Opposing Personality: The person is driven (by externally set standards) to accommodate others, but since this can easily be taken advantage of, when stressed, (or more frequently; from coming from a background of abuse), they will turn the value system inward and erect a hard stiff wall of what is important and desired to themselves personally.

Fi as critical parent: The person parents others with externally set humane values. If this is ignored, a negative internal humane judgment system will erupt to sharply put down the offender.

Fi as trickster: Social acceptance will be a vulnerable spot for them. If this is intimidated, they will use universal humane values to get others off their backs.

Fi as demon: Fe as anima will be very dependent on others for acceptance. This external influence will provide their sense of personal integrity and worth (their "personal relation" to life). If others constantly reject the person, this may trigger a very negative, destructive "universal" sense of being no good as a person, which may also cause backlashes against others. Universal humane values will be used as a "club" to condemn offenders or their systems (i.e. destroy their basis for personal integrity, such as showing they are not really congruent with their own stated values).
The person will also vehemently resist any charge of violation of Fe or Fi values. They may be put off by any self-righteous moralizing in others (which pricks their conscience in a provocative way), and try to outo or take them down. 

In the above, I attempted to show the characteristics of how the four primary functions degrade into their shadows. What should also not be left out is the similar transformation of the first two into their brain lateral counterparts (which are actually the last two), according to Lenore Thomson's theory.

Basically, all this is, is holding the same orientation and switching the function (within the j/p category). Under certain instances of stress, when your dominant or auxiliary functions cannot solve the problem, instead of simply swapping i/e orientation for those same functions, which is engaging their "shadow" counterparts, the ego "tries" the reverse: holding the same orientation with the opposite function.

Basically, (to use Beebe's concepts) the hero becomes the demon, and the parent becomes the trickster.
These are called the "Crow's Nests" in Lenore's ship analogy, while the preferred functions with the attitudes reversed are the "Double Agents" (who as the opposite side brain alternatives act as the "maintenance crew", but may attempt mutiny. And the tertiary and inferior basically cause trouble from outside the ship).
(Should be pointed out that in Lenore's view, the Crow's Nests and Double Agents are not necessarily the same as the archetypes associated with the same functions).

So,
SP's: Se-->Ne
SJ's: Si-->Ni
NP's: Ne-->Se
NJ's: Ni-->Si
TJ's: Te-->Fe
TP's: Ti-->Fi
FJ's: Fe-->Te
FP's: Fi-->Ti

This can be understood in conjunction with the above descriptions of the triggering of the shadows through the primary counterparts. For the hero works in tandem with the inferior or anima, which is shadowed by the demon, and the parent works in tandem with the child, which is shadowed by the trickster. So under some stress, the shadow of a function will be engaged, and under more stress, the full shadow tandem will be engaged.
(Should be noted Lenore herself is more reserved in applying the archetypes to the last three functions).

To gain further understanding of how the opposite function in the dominant attitude might surface, recall that we feel vulnerable in situations where our Persona (and its dominant functional perspective) is threatened. Then the normal inhibitions against the inferior function is removed ("what have I got to lose? I'm already 'out there'"). 
Depending on the situation, the person may even remain in the same brain hemisphere or J/P zone, and thus manifest the function in the dominant attitude, or Beebe's "8th" function, or Lenore's "Crow's Nest".

The way this seems to happen, is that it's not about "using" one of eight function-attitudes or another. It's about the four functional perspectives (S, N, T, F), and for which one is inferior for us. The resultant attitude will be shaped by how the situation hits us. 
It might be that the initial feeling reaches us by way of the typically assigned inferior function-attitude (opposite in both function and attitude), and then the reaction is in its shadow, in the dominant attitude, or the so-called 8th function. Hence, the "ship" order, which is often reflected in cognitive process test result "strengths".

If this happens a lot, you then become used to the perspective, and may "use" it more, but it still carries a general negative connotation (such as solutions to negative situations), and is somewhat uncomfortable.

So when feeling vulnerable, I then turn to a very strong, emotion-laden humane perspective. 
I always had strong emotions when watching animal shows, and seeing how they used to paint or place big bulky radio transmitters on animals they wanted to keep track of. It was for a good purpose that made sense (studying and often trying to protect endangered species), but I couldn't help imagining how it would feel to have that stuff placed on the body and no way to get it off (Fi-personal identification to the situation). 
Also, many fictional stories I can't watch, because of identifying hypothetically, in horrible situations. Any good ending doesn't even "redeem" it.

This made it seem like I might be an FP; after all; isn't a TP always supposed to be "detached", "impersonal", "objective", "unemotional", and put the cause of stuff like science first? 
Still, the Fi has an extremely negative and unconsciously controlled connotation, so for whatever reason, I identify and then shut down in fear of the emotions that erupt. That is what by definition makes a T preference. If other T's aren't so affected, then that is their own individual experience. Maybe some of them are just better at ignoring or stuffing their emotions.

F's on the other hand; especially FP's, would likely enjoy the emotional reactions, even the negative parts, and a happy ending would maintain F's overall values and redeem all the negative stuff. I only sense this in certain fantasies involving the anima, and again, that stems from an overall negative "humane" context, with the Feeling as the last resort "angel" that transforms where T is unable to solve the issue.

This diagram shows how basically, type is really shaped by just the two preferred functions (and their associated archetypes), and the other six are generated through both reflection and shadowing. This creates a two way symmetry, where you have reverse images, and a double-reverse image, which then becomes congruent in shape to the original image. This ends up indicating certain similarities.

Of course, it was Beebe who split off #'s "5-8' as the "shadows" of 1-4. Also, as one can gather in some of his essays, there is also a mirror dynamic, where parent becomes child, and such. The opposite functional perspective is always implicit in a situation, because when we look at it through a function and orientation, we are in essence dividing the situation that in complete form consists of both tangible and conceptual, and technical and humane aspects, which both emerge and vary, and can be stored or set in our memory. So the archetypes work the same way.

I feel bound in a situation (which constellates the Trickster), which also implies a form of negation (which constellates the Senex). So the part of me that feels bound by the current reality will accuse someone deemed responsible of "thinking it's funny" or "playing around", which are "bad child" projections. (I also ask "what do they get out of it?") A bad child implies a need for a critical parent to point out and chastize him. They compensate for the presence of each other. So this simultaneously erupts, providing the authoritarian anger and blaming posture, using a conceptual meaning (even if off the wall) of the situation implicit in view of the tangible reality I'm reacting to in the first place.

I also suspected a larger overall mirror dynamic in the fact that the Anima/Animus and Opposing Personality were both "usually opposite gender", yet the demon ended up same gender. (I would have thought the demon would be opposite gender like the anima it is shadowing).

So for a male, the hero is male, yet its initial reflection is female. It's direct shadow is also female. If you rotate the shadows to be right side up, you'll see that they are congruent to each other, and both reverse of the hero.
The demon is the reflection of the shadow, which is a double-negative, that ends up congruent with the original positive shape. Hence, it is also male. (The gender symmetry is explored more below). This apparently only works with the spine archetypes. The arms are all presumed to be the same gender. This is probably because of the fact that the spines concern the ego's relation to self, and the arms are focused more on others.
It also ends up yet again harmonizing with Lenore's theory. The right/left brain alternatives are the same shape as the preferred functions.

 

Here is a working answer to five questions I had compiled as to understand the whole eight archetype concept in a nutshell:

1) What exactly triggers (constellates) them in us
2) How others' "use" (manifestation) of them affects us
3) how they affect ourselves, inside
4) how we use them on others
5) when the "good" or "bad" sides of them surface 

It seems:

1) The [archetypal] complexes (personal unconscious) are constellated when a situation invokes a memory of an experience associated with the corresponding archetype. Like something that makes us feel inferior, adversarial or cranky; or makes us feel trapped, or feels like evil. Or (for the shadows) we feel obstructed, negated, put upon, or our entire ego's integrity feels threatened. We then view this through the perspective of the associated function-attitude. 

2)Others' manifestations of these functions may trigger these memories, and affect us in kind. (i.e. according to the archetype, and it's functional perspective). Otherwise, they will be subject to how they fit the ego's goals (positively, no effect, etc). 

3)We normally see the functional perspectives as "irrelevant" (or sometimes even have an aversion to them or situations calling for them), and under stress, engage them in a rash, haphazard way. Again, the products of the undifferentiated functions do not have this effect on us when not in conflict with the ego. 

4)We project them onto others, in which we see the other person as the archetype. (This can be either from them truly acting in a way that matches (resonates with) the archetypal complex, or likely more often, just our manufacturing the illusion of such when a situation somehow evokes it). We then react to them in the same way. (adversarial, critical, etc). The goal is to see these archetypes in ourselves rather than project them. 

5)The positive effects surface more either in certain instances of stress when the primary counterparts cannot solve the problem. Otherwise, it is when we "own" the associated complexes and withdraw them, that we gain more conscious access to the functional perspectives. (And of course, there is also the "undifferentiated" normal everyday use of the function).

Narcissistic defences

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Narcissistic defences are those processes whereby the idealised aspects of the self are preserved, and its limitations denied.[1] They tend to be rigid and totalistic.[2] They are often driven by feelings of shame and guilt, conscious or unconscious.[3]

Narcissistic defenses are those processes whereby the idealised aspects of the self are preserved, and its limitations, as well as those of others, denied.[1]

Narcissistic defences tend to be rigid and totalistic:[2] they are often fuelled by feelings of shame and guilt, conscious or unconscious.[3]

Origins

Narcissistic defenses are amongst the earliest defense mechanisms to emerge, and include denialdistortion, andprojection.[4] Splitting is another defense mechanism prevalent among narcissists - seeing people and situations in black and white terms, either as all bad or all good.[5]

However a narcissistic defense, with over-valuation of the self, can come to the fore at any stage of development.[6]

Defence sequences

The narcissist typically runs through a sequence of defenses to discharge painful feelings until he or she finds one that works:[7][8]

  1. unconscious repression

  2. conscious denial

  3. distortion (including exaggeration and minimization) and lies

  4. psychological projection, (blaming somebody else)

  5. enlisting the help of one or more of his or her codependent friends who will support his or her distorted view.

Freudians

Freud did not focus specifically on narcissistic defenses,[9] but did note in On Narcissism how “even great criminals and humorists, as they are represented in literature, compel our interest by the narcissistic consistency with which they manage to keep away from their ego anything that would diminish it”.[10] Freud saw narcissistic regression as a defensive answer to object loss - denying the loss of an important object by way of a substitutive identification with it.[11]

Freud also considered social narcissism as a defence mechanism, apparent when communal identifications produce irrational panics at perceived threats to 'Throne and Altar' or 'Free Markets',[12] or in English over-reaction to any questioning of the status/identity of William Shakespeare.[13]

Fenichel

Otto Fenichel considered that “identification, performed by means of introjection, is the most primitive form of relationship to objects” a primitive mechanism only used “if the ego's function of reality testing is severely damaged by a narcissistic regression.”[14]

Fenichel also highlighted “eccentrics who have more or less succeeded in regaining the security of primary narcissism and who feel 'Nothing can happen to me'....[failing] to give up the archaic stages of repudiating displeasure and to turn toward reality”.[15]

Lacan

Jacques Lacan, following out Freud's view of the ego as the result of identifications,[16] came to considered the ego itself as a narcissistic defence, driven by what he called “the 'narcissistic passion'...in the coming-into-being (devenir) of the subject”.[17]

Kleinians

Melanie Klein, emphasised projective identification in narcissism, and the manic defence against becoming aware of the damage done to objects in this way.[18] For Kleinians, at the core of manic defences in narcissism, stood what Hanna Segalcalled “a triad of feelings - control, triumph and contempt”.[19]

Rosenfeld

Herbert Rosenfeld looked at the role of omnipotence, combined with projective identification, as a narcissistic means of defending against awareness of separation between ego and object.[20]

Object relations theory

In the wake of Klein, object relations theory, including particularly the American schools of Otto Kernberg and Heinz Kohuthas explored narcissistic defences through analysis of such mechanisms as denial, projective identification, and extreme idealization.[21]

Kernberg emphasised the role of the splitting apart introjections, and identifications of opposing qualities, as a cause of ego weakness.[22] Kohut too stressed the fact in narcissism "vertical splits are between self-structures (among others) - 'I am grand' and 'I am wretched' - with very little communication between them".[23]

Neville Symington however placed greater weight on the way "a person dominated by narcissistic currents...survives through being able to sense the emotional tone of the other...wearing the cloaks of others";[24] while for Spotnitz the key element is that the narcissist turns feelings in upon the self in narcissistic defense.[25]

Positive defenses

Kernberg emphasised the positive side to narcissistic defenses,[26] while Kohut also stressed the necessity in early life for narcissistic positions to succeed each other in orderly maturational sequences.[27]

Others like Symington would maintain that "it is a mistake to split narcissism into positive and negative...we do not get positive narcissism without self-hatred".[28]

21st century

The twenty-first century has seen a distinction drawn between cerebral and somatic narcissists – the former building up their self-sense through intellectualism, the latter through an obsession with their bodies,[29] as with the woman who, in bad faith, invests her sense of freedom only in being an object of beauty for others.[30]

Literary parallels

  • Sir Philip Sidney is said to have seen poetry in itself as a narcissistic defense.[31]

  • Sartre's aloof, detached protagonists have been seen as crude narcissists who preserve their sense of self only by petrifying it into solid form.[32]

See also

References

  1. ^ Shaw J.A. (1999.) Sexual Aggression, American Psychiatric Publishing, pp. 28-9.

  2. ^ Gerald Alper, Self Defence in a Narcissistic World (2003) p. 10

  3. ^ Patrick Casement, Further Learning from the Patient (1990) p. 132

  4. ^ Barry P.D., Farmer S. (2002.) Mental Health and Mental Illness, p. 175.

  5. ^ Lubit R. (2002.) "The long-term organizational impact of destructively narcissistic managers", Academy of Management Executive, 16(1), 127-138.

  6. ^ Wilber K., Engler J., Brown D. (1986.) Transformations of Consciousness: Conventional and Contemplative Perspective of Development, Boston: New Science Library, New York City, NY, p. 150

  7. ^ Millon, Theodore; Carrie M. Millon, Seth Grossman, Sarah Meagher, Rowena Ramnath (2004). Personality Disorders in Modern LifeJohn Wiley and SonsISBN 0-471-23734-5

http://books.google.co.uk/books?id=mHnbLYVAn9kC&pg=PT209

.^ Thomas D Narcissism: Behind the Mask (2010)

  1. ^ Elsa Schmid-Kitsikis, "Narcissistic Defenses"

  2. ^ Sigmund Freud, On Metapsychology (PFL 11), p. 83

  3. ^ Freud, Metapsychology, p. 258

  4. ^ Sigmund Freud, On Sexuality (PFL 7) p.352

  5. ^ James Shapiro, Contested Will (2010) p. 344

  6. ^ Otto Fenichel, The Psychoanalytic Theory of Neurosis (London 1946), p. 147-8

  7. ^ Fenichel, p. 510

  8. ^ Elisabeth Roudinesco, Jacques Lacan (Oxford 1997), p. 111

  9. ^ Jacques Lacan, Écrits: A Selection (London 1997), pp. 21-22

  10. ^ James S. Grotstein, "Foreword", in Neville Symington, Narcissism: A New Theory (London 1993), p. xii

  11. ^ Hanna Segal, Introduction to the Work of Melanie Klein (London 1964), p. 70

  12. ^ Jean-Michel Quinodoz, The Taming of Solitude (2004), p. 168

  13. ^ Schmid-Kitsikis

  14. ^ Otto F. Kernberg, Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism (London 1990) p. 29

  15. ^ Kohut, quoted in Josephine Klein, Our Need for Others (London 1994) p. 222

  16. ^ Symington, p. 52 and p. 88

  17. ^ James G. Fennessy, "The Narcissistic Defense"

  18. ^ Elsa Ronningstam, Disorders of Narcissism (1997) p. 128

  19. ^ Heinz Kohut, The Analysis of the Self (Madison 1971) p. 215

  20. ^ Symington, p. 113 and p. 58

  21. ^ Simon Crompton, All about Me (London 2007) p. 28-9

  22. ^ Jack Reynolds, Understanding Existentialism (2006) p. 143

  23. ^ Jonathan Goldberg, Voice Terminal Echo (1986) p. 47

  24. ^ J. A. Kotarba/A. Fontana, The Existential Self in Society (1987) p. 85

Further reading

  • Adamson, J./Clark, H. A., Scenes of Shame (1999)

  • Federn, Paul, "Narcissism in the structure of the ego" International Journal of Psychoanalysis (1928) 9, 401-419.

  • Green, André, Life narcissism, death narcissism (Andrew Weller, Trans.) London and New York: Free Association Books (1983).

  • Grunberger, Béla. (1971) Narcissism: Psychoanalytic essays (Joyce S. Diamanti, Trans., foreword by Marion M. Oliner). New York: International Universities Press.

  • Tausk, Viktor. (1933) "On the origin of the "influencing machine" in schizophrenia" In Robert Fliess (Ed.), The psycho-analytic reader. New York: International Universities Press. (Original work published 1919)

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